For each of us, the only hope resides in his own efforts, in completing his own story, not in the other's interpretation. (63) Sheldon B. Kopp More Quotes by Sheldon B. Kopp More Quotes From Sheldon B. Kopp That is one of the reasons why a man should pick a path with heart, so that he can find his laughter. Sheldon B. Kopp laughter heart inspirational The Zen Master warns: 'If you meet the Buddha on the road, kill him!' This admonition points up that no meaning that comes from outside of ourselves is real. The Buddhahood of each of us has already been obtained. We need only recognize it. Philosophy, religion, patriotism, all are empty idols. The only meaning in our lives is what we each bring to them. Killing the Buddha on the road means destroying the hope that anything outside of ourselves can be out master. No one is any bigger than anyone else. There are no mothers or fathers for grown-ups, only sisters and brothers. Sheldon B. Kopp brother mother father In the long run we get no more than we have been willing to risk giving. Sheldon B. Kopp running motivational inspirational I've never began any important venture for which I felt adequate prepared Sheldon B. Kopp important success inspirational He prefers the security of known misery to the misery of unfamiliar insecurity. Sheldon B. Kopp misery insecurity fear Often things are as bad as they seem. Sheldon B. Kopp domestic-violence violence seems And so, it is not astonishing that, though the patient enters therapy insisting that he wants to change, more often than not, what he really wants is to remain the same and to get the therapist to make him feel better. (4) Sheldon B. Kopp patient feel-better want Transformations require that we let go of familiar ways of doing things, without yet knowing what we will do next. Sheldon B. Kopp knowing letting-go way If I reveal myself without worrying about how others will respond, then some will care, though others may not. But who can love me, if no one knows me? I must risk it, or live alone. Sheldon B. Kopp risk care worry The only times that we can have what we long for are those moments when we stop grasping for it. At such times, all things are possible: "to a mind that is 'still' the whole universe surrenders". Sheldon B. Kopp meditation mind long The continuing struggle was once described in the following metaphor by a patient who had successfully completed a long course of psychotherapy: 'I came to therapy hoping to receive butter for the bread of life. Instead, at the end, I emerged with a pail of sour milk, a churn, and instructions on how to use them.' (138) Sheldon B. Kopp sour-milk bread-of-life struggle You can't make anyone love you. You just have to reveal who you are and take your chances. (105) Sheldon B. Kopp one-love chance love-you We all live in a tragicomic situation, a life that is in part absurd simply because it is not of our own making. We are born into a disordered world, into a family we did not choose, into circumstances we would have had somewhat improved, and we are even called by a name we did not select. (40) Sheldon B. Kopp absurd names world Love is more than simply being open to experiencing the anguish of another person's suffering. It is the willingness to live with the helpless knowing that we can do nothing to save the other from his pain. (23) Sheldon B. Kopp pain knowing love-is When a patient says he feels stuck and confused, and through good intentions he struggles to become loose and clear, he only remains chronically trapped in the mire of his own stubbornness. If instead he will go with where he is, only then is there hope. If he will let himself get deeply into the experience of being stuck, only then will he reclaim that part of himself that is holding him. Only if he will give up trying to control his thinking, and let himself sink into his confusion, only then will things become clear. (64) Sheldon B. Kopp confused giving-up struggle To live without the creative potential of our own destructiveness is to be a cardboard angel. Sheldon B. Kopp destructiveness angel creative Everything good is costly, and the development of the personality is one of the most costly of all things. It will cost you your innocence, your illusions, your certainty. (10) Sheldon B. Kopp cost development personality I remember a group therapy session when one of the patients was reluctantly turning his corner. He would accept it, he said, but he wouldn't like the idea of having to solve problems every day for the rest of his life. My co-therapist told him that it was not required that he like it. She shared her own displeasure, saying: 'I remember that when I first discovered what life was like, I was furious. I guess I'm still kind of mad sometimes.' (135) Sheldon B. Kopp mad groups ideas If I am transparent enough to myself, then I can become less afraid of those hidden selves that my transparency may reveal to others. If I reveal myself without worrying about how others will respond, then some will care, though others may not. But who can love me, if no one knows me? I must risk it, or live alone. It is enough that I must die alone. I am determined to let down my walls, whatever the risks, if it means that I may have whatever is there for me. Sheldon B. Kopp wall self mean He may only get to keep that which he is willing to let go of. Sheldon B. Kopp willing letting-go may
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