To say a person is a coward has no more meaning than to say he is lazy: It simply tells us that some vital potentiality is unrealized or blocked. Rollo May More Quotes by Rollo May More Quotes From Rollo May Real freedom is the ability to pause between stimulus and response, and in that pause, choose. Rollo May stimulus-and-responseabilityreal Courage is not the absence of despair; it is, rather, the capacity to move ahead in spite of despair. Rollo May despaircouragemoving The opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice, it is conformity. Rollo May soulmateself-esteemcourage To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before Rollo May disappointmentlovelife If you do not express your own original ideas, if you do not listen to your own being, you will have betrayed yourself. Rollo May creatingdepressionideas Fortunately, however, we no longer have to argue that self -love is not only necessary and good but that it also is a prerequisite for loving others. Rollo May people-in-your-lifeselflove Many people suffer from the fear of finding oneself alone, and so they don't find themselves at all. Rollo May introspectionsufferingpeople Freedom is man's capacity to take a hand in his own development. It is our capacity to mold ourselves. Rollo May freedommenhands Therapy isn't curing somebody of something; it is a means of helping a person explore himself, his life, his consciousness. My purpose as a therapist is to find out what it means to be human. Every human being must have a point at which he stands against the culture, where he says, "This is me and the world be damned!" Leaders have always been the ones to stand against the society - Socrates, Christ, Freud, all the way down the line. Rollo May linesleadermean Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing. Rollo May sympathyinspirationallife Many people feel they are powerless to do anything effective with their lives. It takes courage to break out of the settled mold, but most find conformity more comfortable. This is why the opposite of courage in our society is not cowardice, it's conformity. Rollo May our-societyoppositespeople People attain worth and dignity by the multitude of decisions they make from day to day. Rollo May decisionlifepeople One does not become fully human painlessly. Rollo May humansdoereality In my clinical experience, the greatest block to a person's development is his having to take on a way of life which is not rooted in his own powers. Rollo May destinyblockdevelopment Creativity arises out of the tension between spontaneity and limitations, the latter (like the river banks) forcing the spontaneity into the various forms which are essential to the work of art or poem. Rollo May creativityriversart The amazing thing about love is that it is the best way to get to know ourselves. Rollo May knowslove-isway What anxiety means is it's as though the world is knocking at your door, and you need to create, you need to make something, you need to do something. I think anxiety, for people who have found their own heart and their own souls, for them it is a stimulus toward creativity, toward courage. It's what makes us human beings. Rollo May creativitycourageheart One of the easiest ways to be irresponsible about power is to forget you have it. Rollo May forget-youplanningway Depression is the inability to construct a future. Rollo May depressingsaddepression Love is generally confused with dependence; but in point of fact, you can love only in proportion to your capacity for independence. Rollo May independenceconfusedlove-is
