When we acknowledge a child's feelings, we do him a great service. We put him in touch with his inner reality. And once he's clear about that reality, he gathers the strength to begin to cope. Adele Faber More Quotes by Adele Faber More Quotes From Adele Faber Take two kids in competition for their parents' love and attention. Add to that the envy that one child feels for the accomplishments of the other; the resentment that each child feels for the privileges of the other; the personal frustrations that they don't dare let out on anyone else but a brother or sister, and it's not hard to understand why in families across the land, the sibling relationship contains enough emotional dynamite to set off rounds of daily explosions. Adele Faber sibling brother children When we give children advice or instant solutions, we deprive them of the experience that comes from wrestling with their own problems. Adele Faber giving wrestling children Deep inside you know / when trouble comes / and there's no one else to turn to / you can call on each other / and count on each other ... / because each other / is all you have. Adele Faber deep-inside turns trouble Let us be different in our homes. Let us realize that along with food, shelter, and clothing, we have another obligation to our children, and that is to affirm their "rightness." The whole world will tell them what's wrong with them--out loud and often. Our job is to let our children know what's right about them. Adele Faber home jobs children I was a wonderful parent before I had children. I was an expert on why everyone else was having problems with theirs. Then I had three of my own. Adele Faber parent experts children From their struggles to establish dominance over each other, siblings become tougher and more resilient. From their endless rough-housing with each other, they develop speed and agility. From their verbal sparring they learn the difference between being clever and being hurtful. From the normal irritations of living together, they learn how to assert themselves, defend themselves, compromise. And sometimes, from their envy of each other's special abilities they become inspired to work harder, persist and achieve. Adele Faber sibling struggle clever No one cares / who is better / who is worse / who has more / who has less. / Content in our connectedness / we are brothers and sisters / after all. Adele Faber connectedness care brother I was a wonderful parent before I had children. Adele Faber parent wonderful children The mere existence of an additional child or children in the family could signify Less. Less time alone with parents. Less attention for hurts and disappointments. Less approval for accomplishments. . . . No wonder children struggle so fiercely to be first or best. No wonder they mobilize all their energy to have more or most. Or better still, all. Adele Faber disappointment hurt children Comforters for our todays / Guardians of memories / Keeping our youth and yesterdays alive / Comrades with one history. Adele Faber alive yesterday memories
