A man cannot tell whether a woman is in love with him or his security blanket until she is financially and psychologically independent enough to leave. Until a woman has learned how to leave, even she cannot be sure she has learned to love. Warren Farrell More Quotes by Warren Farrell More Quotes From Warren Farrell Although a government study found that men's health was much worse than women's health or the health of any minority group, headlines around the country read: 'Minorities Face Large Health Care Gap.' They did not say: 'Men Face Large Health Care Gap.' Why? Because we associate the sacrifice of men's lives with the saving of the rest of us, and this association leads us to carry in our unconscious an incentive not to care about men living longer. Warren Farrell sacrifice men country In brief, we do more research on men in prison, men in the military, and men in general than we do on women for the same reason we do more research on rats than we do on humans. Warren Farrell research military men The teenage female has less demand to perform and more resources to attract love. Her body and mind are more genetic gifts. Warren Farrell teenage female mind During the years I was on the board of directors of the National Organization for Women in New York City, the most resistant audiences I ever faced in the process of doing corporate workshops on equality in the workplace were not male executives - they were the wives of male executives. As long as her income came from her husband, she was not feeling generous when affirmative action let another woman have a head start vying for her husband's (her) income. Warren Farrell husband new-york years Women's liberation and the male midlife crisis were the same search--for personal fulfillment, common values, mutual respect, love. But while women's liberation was thought of as promoting identity, the male midlife crisis was thought of as an identity crisis. Warren Farrell midlife males identity The rules of sexism do not free men from the terror of violence; they only keep men from complaining about it. Warren Farrell violence complaining men In the past we believed both sexes were born with original sin. Today, we have come to unconsciously believe in the original sin of boys, but the original innocence of girls. Warren Farrell girl believe sex Alan Alda is loved not because he's sensitive, but because he's successful and sensitive. Warren Farrell sensitive successful For the first time in human history the psychology that is a prerequisite for intimacy has become the psychology that is a prerequisite for species survival. Warren Farrell psychology survival firsts For thousands of years, most marriages were in Stage I--survival-focused. After World War II, marriages increasingly flirted with Stage II--a self-fulfillment focus... Love's definition is in a transition. Warren Farrell self war years Women do not enter a profession in significant numbers until it is physically safe. So until we care enough about men's safety to turn the death professions into safe professions, we in effect discriminate against women. But when we overprotect women and only women it also leads to discrimination against women. ...If [an employer works] for a large company for which quotas prevent discrimination, they find themselves increasingly hiring free-lancers rather than taking on a woman and therefore a possible sexual harassment lawsuit. Warren Farrell safety numbers men Options allow a woman to tailor her role to her personality, but if a man expects to provide well, he expects to wear a suit, not to wear what suits him. Warren Farrell roles personality men When we commit violence against an infant girl, we call it child abuse; when we commit violence against an infant boy, we call it circumcision. Warren Farrell girl boys children Circumcision in the United States is routinely performed without anesthesia, though anesthesia reduces the infant's stress and prevents infection and blood clots. Warren Farrell united-states stress blood The legal bias for special protection for women has begun to wreak havoc with the Constitution's guarantee of equal protection. Warren Farrell constitution guarantees special In one decade, women had gotten more protection against offensive jokes in the workplace than men had gotten in centuries against being killed in the workplace. Warren Farrell offensive workplace men Teaching the child to treat boundaries seriously teaches the child to respect the rights and needs of others. Thinking of another's needs creates empathy. Warren Farrell teaching children thinking Humans tend to start the process of change by acknowledging themselves. Thus blacks asserted black pride and 'black is beautiful;' women declared 'I am woman, I am strong'; men are saying 'I am man, I am okay.' After a quarter of a century of male bashing, that's not a bad start. Warren Farrell strong pride beautiful Nobody really believes in equality anyway. Warren Farrell equality annoying believe All women's issues are to some degree men's issues and all men's issues are to some degree women's issues because when either sex wins unilaterally both sexes lose. Warren Farrell winning men sex
