A relationship can be deeply damaging without anyone leaving marks on you. So many people - especially young women - end up trying to maintain those emotionally abusive relationships because we don't think it's that bad and that we are really some of the lucky ones because we haven't experienced 'real' abuse.

Lauren Mayberry

I think a lot of people spend a lot of time talking about what they hate rather than what they love. I don't want to get trapped in that.

Lauren Mayberry

hate talking thinking

Nobody is strong 100 percent of the time, or falling apart 100 percent of the time; sometimes you're doing both at once.

Lauren Mayberry

strong sometimes fall

I'm abstaining from romance and the discussion of romance.

Lauren Mayberry

discussion abstaining romance

Life's too short to be shoehorned into a box that isn't for you.

Lauren Mayberry

mayberry boxes too-short

Nothing gets my hackles up like being told I can't do something.

Lauren Mayberry

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I'm sure that a lot of women and men feel differently about it, but for me this isn't about being the girl in the band... it's just about being IN the band, if that makes sense? We're trying to keep it in a pure and genuine place for us and not break it down to gender, because it's just a bit boring and obvious isn't it?

Lauren Mayberry

girl trying men

A good song to one person could just be something mediocre to somebody else. It's always strange thinking about how songs connect with people.

Lauren Mayberry

song people thinking

I like the idea of a record being more than one thing emotionally - human beings go through so many emotions in one day, and I like those things sitting next to each other.

Lauren Mayberry

one-day sitting ideas

I think a lot of things that people think are complimentary are a little bit condescending, but then we just have to keep doing what we're doing, and being in the band is the important bit.

Lauren Mayberry

important people thinking

I try not to say exactly what songs are about sometimes, because I feel like it ruins it for people.

Lauren Mayberry

song trying people

I quite like being removed from the industry stuff so that when we're not on tour and we're writing, we're in a small room and you can't get out physically. I like that mental checking-out aspect - I think it's quite nice.

Lauren Mayberry

nice writing thinking

I learned drumming as a second instrument because I didn't want to sing. Sometimes I would quite like to be left in the back, in the darkness by myself.

Lauren Mayberry

drumming darkness want

Internet has been really amazing, and I think it's a place of great passion, creativity, and knowledge.

Lauren Mayberry

creativity passion thinking

I've been in bands since I was about fifteen, so there are probably quite a lot of terrible teenage songs kicking about somewhere. I'm not sure what it was about to be honest, I think it was probably just something along the lines of teen angst.

Lauren Mayberry

teenage song thinking

I think I have a vested interest in thinking that the lyrics are important, but I think for us it's important that we all write things that mean something to us, and I think we're not really in the business of writing la-la-love-you chart pop songs. It needs to have a personal pulling in the gut for me, to want to write anything about it.

Lauren Mayberry

love-you writing song

I have a personal Twitter for band purposes, but I don't use social media a lot. I fall in a weird age gap. I was on band message boards when I was 16, but I was on the early curve of Facebook. I did it for work when I worked in media, and I did it for the band, but I can't relate to the idea that you live your life online.

Lauren Mayberry

media ideas fall

I'd rather work with a grassroots organization than in politics. I'm not sure I'd be the best politician because I don't think I'm good about tactfully tiptoeing around questions in the right way.

Lauren Mayberry

organization way thinking

No matter how many people try, no matter how many fancy songwriters in Los Angeles try to break it down to a formula... to an extent, there isn't a science to writing great songs, I suppose.

Lauren Mayberry

writing song people

For us, the stuff we know is writing songs, playing shows, and that's what we're trying to concentrate on. Not trying to read about yourselves or looking up things about yourselves on the Internet - it's the key, or you'll go insane!

Lauren Mayberry

keys writing song

I don't know Justin Bieber so I wouldn't want to marry a man I don't know.

Lauren Mayberry

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