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We can learn to ignore the bullshit in the Bible about gay people. The same way we have learned to ignore the bullshit in the Bible about shellfish, about slavery, about dinner, about farming, about menstruation, about virginity, about masturbation.

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Don't mistake being an asshole for being a man. by Dan Savage

Don't mistake being an asshole for being a man.

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Ultimately life is disease, death and oblivion. It's still better... by Dan Savage

Ultimately life is disease, death and oblivion. It's still better than high school.

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We all have our scars. That's what falling is love is all about: revealing your scars to somebody who then loves you anyway.

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One person simply can’t be all things to another person – sexually or otherwise—and unmet needs, unfulfilled desire, and unexplored possibilities are prices we pay to be in LTRs (long –term relationships). Monogamous, polyamorous, Femdom, or whatever: All couples people walk around feeling a little unfulfilled. (Single people, too). Because no one gets everything they want.

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If sex isn't an important part of your marriage, you can't beef if your wife or husband does this unimportant thing with somebody else every once in a while, if you have no interest in it.

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Today's unspeakable perversion is tomorrow's kink, is next week's... by Dan Savage

Today's unspeakable perversion is tomorrow's kink, is next week's good clean fun

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I think astrology is annoying bullshit-which is so Libra of me by Dan Savage

I think astrology is annoying bullshit-which is so Libra of me

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every relationship you are in will fail, until one doesn't by Dan Savage

every relationship you are in will fail, until one doesn't

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Pride became this dogma which meant you couldn't criticize anything gay - if you were the least bit critical of gay culture or people or any gay person doing any gay thing, that was an insufficient display of pride. You were suffering from internalized homophobia. As opposed to external homophobia.

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And that really captures the difference for the bullied straight kid versus the bullied gay kid, is that the bullied straight kid goes home to a shoulder to cry on and support and can talk freely about his experience at school and why he's being bullied. [...] And I couldn't go home and open up to my parents.

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Only someone obsessed with sexual fidelity to an unhealthy degree places a higher value on preserving the ideal of monogamous marriage over preserving an actual marriage.

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I think the best thing for you to do is just live your life. Live a life that's worth living, one where you do what you want to do, pursue your passions. That way, if you meet someone, they'll be joining a life that's already really good.

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the Bible is only as good and decent as the person reading it. by Dan Savage

the Bible is only as good and decent as the person reading it.

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the truth is often a mixed message by Dan Savage

the truth is often a mixed message

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If kids got raped at Denny's as often as they get raped at church it would be illegal to take your kids to Denny's.

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I think abortion should be mandatory for about 30 years. by Dan Savage

I think abortion should be mandatory for about 30 years.

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Straight couples don't have to be monogamous to be married or married to be monogamous. Monogamy no more defines marriage than the presence of children does. Monogamy isn't compulsory and its absence doesn't invalidate a marriage.

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Bisexuals need to recognize that their being closeted is a huge contributing factor to the hostility they face.

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Shouldn't homophobic politicians and anti-gay bullies be presumed to be gay until they get caught up in a straight sex scandal?

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