At the heart of personality is the need to feel a sense of being lovable without having to qualify for that acceptance. Paul Tournier More Quotes by Paul Tournier More Quotes From Paul Tournier I am convinced that nine out of every ten persons seeing a psychiatrist do not need one. They need someone who will love them with God's love...and they will get well. Paul Tournier get-wellnineneeds Everything that is worthwhile in life is scary. Choosing a school, choosing a career, getting married, having kids - all those things are scary. If it is not fearful, it is not worthwhile. Paul Tournier marriagefamilylife In order to really understand, we need to listen, not reply. We need to listen long and attentively. In order to help anybody to open his heart we have to give him time, asking only a few questions, as carefully as possible in order to help him better explain his experience. Paul Tournier heartorderlong The experience of being in between-between the time we leave home and arrive at our destination; between the time we leave adolescence and arrive at adulthood; between the time we leave doubt and arrive at faith. It is like the time when a trapeze artist lets go the bars and hangs in midair, ready to catch another support: it is a time of danger, of expectation, of uncertainty, of excitement, or extraordinary aliveness. Paul Tournier artistletting-gohome Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can. Paul Tournier confidencepositivesports The adventurous life is not one exempt from fear, but on the contrary, one that is lived in full knowledge of fears of all kinds, one in which we go forward in spite of our fears. Paul Tournier adventurous-lifekindinspirational There are two things we cannot do alone. One is to be married and the other is to be a Christian. Paul Tournier marriedchristiantwo That is what marriage really means; helping one another to reach the full status of being persons, responsible and autonomous beings who do not run away from life. Paul Tournier marriageinspirationallove Acceptance of one's life has nothing to do with resignation; it does not mean running away from the struggle. On the contrary, it means accepting it as it comes, with all the handicaps of heredity, of suffering, of psychological complexes and injustices. Paul Tournier changerunninglife God leads us step by step, from event to event. Only afterward, as we look back over the way we have come and reconsider certain important moments in our lives in the light of all that has followed them, or when we survey the whole progress of our lives, do we experience the feeling of having been led without knowing it, the feeling that God has mysteriously guided us. Paul Tournier lightknowingfeelings Where there is no longer any opportunity for doubt, there is no longer any opportunity for faith either. Paul Tournier doubtopportunity Christian faith does not involve repressing one's anxiety in order to appear strong. On the contrary, it means recognizing one's weakness, accepting the inward truth about oneself, confessing one's anxiety, and still to believe, that is to say that the Christian puts his trust not in his own strength, but in the grace of God. Paul Tournier strongchristianbelieve What happens then is like what happens when we separate a jigsaw puzzle into its fuve hundred pieces: The over-all picture disappears. This is the state of modern medicine: It has lost the sense of the unity of man. Such is the price it has paid for its scientific progress. It has sacrificed art to science. Paul Tournier medicinemenart It is quite clear that between love and understanding there is a very close link...He who loves understands, and he who understands loves. One who feels understood feels loved, and one who feels loved feels sure of being understood. Paul Tournier clearunderstandinglinks Our task is to live our personal communion with Christ with such intensity as to make it contagious. Paul Tournier intensitytaskschrist Nothing makes us so lonely as our secrets. Paul Tournier lonelydreamlove Your manner of life now is already determining your life in those years of old age and retirement, without your realizing it even, and perhaps without your giving enough thought to it. One must therefore prepare oneself for retirement. Paul Tournier retirementgivingyears We are nearly always longing for an easy religion, easy to understand and easy to follow; a religion with no mystery, no insoluble problems,no snags; a religion that would allow us to escape from our miserable human condition; a religion in which contact with God spares us all strife, all uncertainty,all suffering and all doubt; in short, a religion without a cross Paul Tournier mysterysufferingdoubt ...the highest sign of friendship is that of giving another the privilege of sharing your inner thought. Paul Tournier highestprivilegegiving Recounting of a life story, a mind thinking aloud leads one inevitably to the consideration of problems which are no longer psychological but spiritual. Paul Tournier spiritualmindthinking
