Avoid 'shoulding' on others and yourself! Marshall B. Rosenberg More Quotes by Marshall B. Rosenberg More Quotes From Marshall B. Rosenberg NVC is interested in learning that is motivated by reverence for life, by a desire to learn skills, to contribute better to our own well-being and the well-being of others. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication skills desire The first step in healing is to put the focus on what's alive now, not what happened in the past. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication healing past Every time I mess up is a chance to practice. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication chance practice I think that there is a problem with rewards and consequences because in the long run, they rarely work in the ways we hope. In fact, they are likely to backfire. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication running thinking By maintaining our attention on what's going on within others, we offer them a chance to fully explore and express their interior selves. We would stem this flow if we were to shift attention too quickly either to their request or to our own desire to express ourselves. Marshall B. Rosenberg empathy self desire We're not taught to think in terms of needs. We don't make nice dead people when we're in touch with needs. Domination structures cannot maintain themselves when citizens are educated to be alive. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication nice thinking The only time a message (label) can scare us is if we think there is such a thing, and that such a thing is a disgrace. Marshall B. Rosenberg scare communication thinking They have most likely said it because they have an unmet need. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication said needs A second even more obvious sign is that the person will stop talking. If we are uncertain as to whether we have stayed long enough in the process, we can always ask, "Is there more that you wanted to say"? Marshall B. Rosenberg empathy talking long Thinking based on who deserves what blocks compassionate communication. Marshall B. Rosenberg block communication thinking What evidence is there that we've adequately empathized with the other person? First, when an individual realizes that everything going on within has received full empathic understanding, they will experience a sense of relief. We can become aware of this phenomenon by noticing a corresponding release of tension in our own body. Marshall B. Rosenberg relief empathy understanding NVC is a reminder; to focus our attention where we are most likely to get our needs met. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication focus attention We give empathy to others for our own benefit. Marshall B. Rosenberg empathy communication giving Needs are the expression of life through us. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication expression needs Never connect yourself with the other person's pain. Just hear their need. Leave yourself out of the other person's feelings and needs. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication pain feelings Most of us live in a Jackal world where we take turns using the other person as a waste basket for our words. Marshall B. Rosenberg our-words communication world A respectful understanding of another's experience. Marshall B. Rosenberg respectful empathy understanding Violence in any form is a tragic expression of our unmet needs. Marshall B. Rosenberg violence expression needs Public education for some time has been heavily focused on what curricula we believe will be helpful to students. Life-Enriching Education is based on the premise that the relationship between teachers and students, the relationships of students with one another, and the relationships of students to what they are learning are equally important in preparing students for the future. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication teacher believe NVC can be effectively applied at all levels of communication and in diverse situations: intimate relationships, families, schools, organizations and institutions, therapy and counseling, diplomatic and business negotiations, disputes and conflicts of any nature. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication intimate-relationships school
