Avoidance behavior is a response designed to protect the infant from behavioral disorganization. If we transfer this concept to adult life, we can see that an avoidant infant might very well develop into a person whose principal need was to find some kind of meaning and order in life which was not entirely, or even chiefly, dependent upon interpersonal relationships

Anthony Storr

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It is only when we no longer compulsively need someone that we can have a real relationship with them.

Anthony Storr

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What chiefly concerns and alarms many of us are the problems arising from religious fanaticism. As long as large numbers of militant enthusiasts are persuaded that they alone have access to the truth, and that the rest of us are infidels, we remain under threat. Lord Acton's famous phrase about power can be used of another danger. Dogma tends to corrupt, and absolute dogma corrupts absolutely.

Anthony Storr

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It is true that many creative people fail to make mature personal relationships, and some are extremely isolated. It is also true that, in some instances, trauma, in the shape of early separation or bereavement, has steered the potentially creative person toward developing aspects of his personality which can find fulfillment in comparative isolation. But this does not mean that solitary, creative pursuits are themselves pathological.

Anthony Storr

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Originality implies being bold enough to go beyond accepted norms.

Anthony Storr

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If we did not look to marriage as the principal source of happiness, fewer marriages would end in tears.

Anthony Storr

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Whether a belief is considered to be a delusion or not depends partly upon the intensity with which it is defended, and partly upon the numbers of people subscribing to it.

Anthony Storr

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The human spirit is not indestructible; but a courageous few discover that, when in hell, they are granted a glimpse of heaven.

Anthony Storr

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I want to show that the dividing lines between sanity and mental illness have been drawn in the wrong place.

Anthony Storr

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In a culture in which interpersonal relationships are generally considered to provide the answer to every form of distress, it is sometimes difficult to persuade well-meaning helpers that solitude can be as therapeutic as emotional support.

Anthony Storr

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The professional must learn to be moved and touched emotionally, yet at the same time stand back objectively: I've seen a lot of damage done by tea and sympathy.

Anthony Storr

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It is widely believed that interpersonal relationships of an intimate kind are the chief, if not the only, source of human happiness, yet the lives of creative individuals often seem to run counter to this assumption.

Anthony Storr

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Inspiration cannot be willed, though it can be wooed.

Anthony Storr

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A happy marriage perhaps represents the ideal of human relationship -- a setting in which each partner, while acknowledging the need of the other, feels free to be what he or she by nature is: a relationship in which instinct as well as intellect can find expression; in which giving and taking are equal; in which each accepts the other, and I confronts Thou.

Anthony Storr

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The creative person is constantly seeking to discover himself, to remodel his own identity, and to find meaning in what he creates.

Anthony Storr

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The sane are madder than we think, the mad saner.

Anthony Storr

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Part of what we admire about a painting or a piece of music is the order which the artist has imposed upon what would otherwise have appeared disconnected or chaotic.

Anthony Storr

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Imagination flourishes best in solitude.

Anthony Storr

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I get intrigued by a puzzle, and writing a book is the best way to solve it.

Anthony Storr

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The ecstatic state of wholeness is bound to be transient because it has no part in the total pattern of ‘adaptation through maladaptation’ which is characteristic of our species…the hunger of imagination, the desire and pursuit of the whole, take origin from the realization that something is missing, from awareness of incompleteness.

Anthony Storr

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Since I was not able wholly to subscribe to any one set of beliefs advanced by any 'guru' I had to fall back on my own, however derivative.

Anthony Storr

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