Coming from Google, you don't exactly spend a lot of time at Microsoft. Sheryl Sandberg More Quotes by Sheryl Sandberg More Quotes From Sheryl Sandberg I don't hold myself out as a role model. I don't believe that everyone should make the same choices; that everyone has to want to be a CEO, or everyone should want to be a work-at-home mother. I want everyone to be able to choose. But I want us to be able to choose unencumbered by gender choosing for us. Sheryl Sandberg mother home believe I am saying that I was able to mold those hours around the needs of my family, and that matters. And I really encourage other people at Facebook to mold hours around themselves. Sheryl Sandberg women careers work Everyone knows that marriage is the biggest personal decision you make, but it's the biggest career decision you can make. Sheryl Sandberg women careers work When my mother took her turn to sit in a gown at her graduation, she thought she only had two career options: nursing and teaching. She raised me and my sister to believe that we could do anything, and we believed her. Sheryl Sandberg teaching mother believe We call our little girls bossy. Go to a playground; little girls get called bossy all the time - a word that's almost never used for boys - and that leads directly to the problems women face in the workforce. Sheryl Sandberg girl littles boys What works for men does not always work for women, because success and likability are positively correlated for men and negatively correlated for women. That's what the research shows. As a man gets more successful, everyone is rooting for him. As a woman gets more successful, both men and women like her less. Sheryl Sandberg successful doe men we compromise our career goals to make room for partners and children who may not even exist yet Sheryl Sandberg careers goal children I'm not telling women to be like men. I'm telling us to evaluate what men and women do in the workforce and at home without the gender bias. Sheryl Sandberg gender-bias home men The promise of equality is not the same as true equality. Sheryl Sandberg true-equality promise The gender stereotypes introduced in childhood are reinforced throughout our lives and become self-fulfilling prophesies. Most leadership positions are held by men, so women don't expect to achieve them, and that becomes one of the reasons they don't. Sheryl Sandberg childhood self men Today, despite all of the gains we have made, neither men nor women have real choice. Until women have supportive employers and colleagues as well as partners who share family responsibilities, they don't have real choice. And until men are fully respected for contributing inside the home, they don't have real choice either. Sheryl Sandberg real responsibility home The best way to make room for both life and career is to make choices deliberately-to set limits and stick to them. Sheryl Sandberg careers choices way And in situations where a man and a woman each receive negative feedback, the woman's self-confidence and self-esteem drop to a much greater degree. The internalization of failure and the insecurity it breeds hurt future performance, so this pattern has serious long-term consequences. Sheryl Sandberg self-confidence self-esteem hurt Without fear, women can pursue professional success and personal fulfillment-and freely choose one, or the other, or both. Sheryl Sandberg personal-fulfillment professional-success fulfillment Men can comfortably claim credit for what they do as long as they don't veer into arrogance. For women, taking credit comes at a real social and professional cost. Sheryl Sandberg real men long You need to feel that you're making a difference. Sheryl Sandberg making-a-difference differences needs Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier. Sheryl Sandberg women work home The most important career decision you'll make is who your life partner is. Sheryl Sandberg balance careers decision Don't be afraid to ask the 'dumb' question, everyone else will be relieved you had the guts to ask! Sheryl Sandberg relieved dumb leadership I have never met a woman, or man, who stated emphatically, "Yes, I have it all.'" Because no matter what any of us has—and how grateful we are for what we have—no one has it all. Sheryl Sandberg grateful matter men
