Dealing with chronic anxiety has taught me to better understand the nuances of mental illness and the very individual nature of it. John Corey Whaley More Quotes by John Corey Whaley More Quotes From John Corey Whaley Your mind has a way of not letting you forget things you wish you could. Especially with people. Like, you'll always try your best to forget things that people say to you or about you, but you always remember. And you'll try to forget things you've seen that no one should see, but you just can't do it. And when you try to forget someone's face, you can't get it out of your head. John Corey Whaley wish mind people People dreamed. People left. And they all came back. John Corey Whaley left people Not only had my brother disappeared, but--and bear with me here--a part of my very being had gone with him. Stories about us could, from them on, be told from only one perspective. Memories could be told but not shared. John Corey Whaley perspective brother memories I wanted the world to sit back, listen up, and let me explain to it that when someone is sad and hopeless, the last thing they need to feel is that they are the only ones in the world with that feeling. So, if you feel sorry for someone, don't pretend to be happy. Don't pretend to care only about their problems. John Corey Whaley sorry feelings needs Spouses have each other, and even when one eventually dies, they have memories of a time when they existed before that other person and can more readily imagine a life without them. Likewise, parents may have other children to be concerned with--a future to protect for them. To lose a sibling is to lose the one person with whom one shares a lifelong bond that is meant to continue on into the future. John Corey Whaley sibling memories children Some people say dying alone is a fate worse than death itself. Well, they should try being alone during the living part sometimes. There's no quicker way to make you wonder why the hell you ever thought you'd want to return. John Corey Whaley fate dying-alone people I can't seem to be a pessimist long enough to overlook the possibility of things being overwhelmingly good. John Corey Whaley possibility enough long I jotted down Oslo After Death. This would be a great title for a book, I thought. That is what I do sometimes. I jot down titles for books that I one day intend to write. John Corey Whaley one-day writing book No matter how often you see or talk to someone, no matter how much you know them or don't know them, you always fill up some space in their lives that can't ever be replaced the right way again once you leave it. John Corey Whaley space matter way A sibling represents a person's past, present, and future. John Corey Whaley sibling persons past The thing to know about my brother was that even though he was fifteen, he looked to be about the same age as me. Only, I'm not sure if that was because he looked older or I looked younger. I like to think it was a healthy mixture of both. John Corey Whaley healthy brother thinking You ever feel like you know someone so much that they can breathe for you? Like when their chest and your chest rise and fall, they do it together because they have to? That's how it felt. That's how it always felt. John Corey Whaley together love fall I often found myself in situations where I had, without thinking, said too much to too many with too little caution. John Corey Whaley too-much littles thinking Maybe we all just exist, all versions of us exist at times, and we have to figure out a way to get to each of them, to find each one and tell that version that it's okay, that it's all justthe way it works, a concept too powerful to ignore but too complicated to explain. John Corey Whaley powerful complicated way I thought maybe a day was coming when I'd stop constantly worrying about how to live. Maybe at some point I'd just start living, no questions asked. John Corey Whaley questions-asked worry I've found that a combination of therapy and medication, along with lifestyle choices like eating better and exercising regularly, helps me cope well with my anxiety. John Corey Whaley better me anxiety eating I grew up in a little town with about 6,000 or 7,000 people. I always knew from 11 or 12 years old that I wanted to be a writer, and I always wanted to write about growing up in a place like that that's small and you don't fit into. John Corey Whaley place you growing-up people In the middle of my fourth year teaching is when I got my book contract - in 2010. I knew the book would come out in May 2011. John Corey Whaley come year may book I did some research on cryonics and cryogenics, but I kept it to a minimum because I didn't want the science part of the novel to overshadow the fiction. Being medically accurate wasn't my main goal. John Corey Whaley being research want science I do come from a very close family. And I'm fascinated, in particular, with family relationships and the relationships that we all form with friends who feel as close, if not closer, than family. John Corey Whaley relationships feel friends family
