for every marriage that is made in Heaven, there is a marriage made in Hell. Phyllis Chesler More Quotes by Phyllis Chesler More Quotes From Phyllis Chesler For most women, being seen, having others pay attention to you, is imagined and experienced as more desirable and more powerful than commanding an army or seizing control of the means of production and reproduction. Phyllis Chesler armypowerfulmean Women must begin to "save" themselves and their daughters before they "save" their husbands and their sons; before they "save" the whole world. Phyllis Chesler daughterhusbandson Sons or fathers, poor men or rich men, sacred or secular: all are homosexual in their worship of everything phallic. Phyllis Chesler menfatherson How sad that men would base an entire civilization on the principle of paternity, upon the legal owership and presumed responsibility for children, and then never really get to know their sons and daughters very well. Phyllis Chesler daughterresponsibilitychildren Ideal mental health, like freedom, exists for one person only if it exists for all people. Phyllis Chesler mental-healthpersonspeople Feminism is a way of understanding reality, not just a series of things to do. Feminism challenges our predilection for one right answer, one right God, one size fits all. Phyllis Chesler understandingchallengesreality Goddesses never die. They slip in and out of the world's cities, in and out of our dreams, century after century, answering to different names, dressed differently, perhaps even disguised, perhaps idle and unemployed, their official altars abandoned, their temples feared or simply forgotten. Phyllis Chesler citiesnamesdream The West has funded the war against itself by buying Arab oil. It is as simple and as tragic as that. Phyllis Chesler oilsimplewar If it were natural for father to care for their sons, they would not need so many laws commanding them to do so. Phyllis Chesler lawfatherson I am not saying that a female-dominated or Amazon society based on the oppression of men is any more "just" than is a male-dominated society based on the oppression of women. I am merely pointing out in what ways it is better for women. [¶] Perhaps someday a choice between forms of injustice will not be necessary. Phyllis Chesler choicesmenway Sexual pleasure is not a sin. Nor is it a sacrament. It is your right as a human being to exercise as you see fit. It's amazing that I feel the need to say this, but, given our times, I do. Phyllis Chesler sinexerciseneeds Women ... do not have to forsake the "wisdom of the heart" and become men. They need only transfer the primary force of their supportiveness to themselves and to each other but never to the point of self-sacrifice. Phyllis Chesler sacrificeheartmen Time is life. Anyone who wastes my time is killing me. Please don't! Phyllis Chesler wastekillingtime All men are not rapists - but almost all rapists are men. Phyllis Chesler men Only the powerless live in a money culture and know nothing about money. Phyllis Chesler powerlessknowsculture Women must convert their love for and reliance on strength and skill in others to a love for all manner of strength and skill in themselves Phyllis Chesler relianceskills Most mother-women give up whatever ghost of a unique and human self they may have when they 'marry' and raise children. Phyllis Chesler giving-upmotherchildren exile ... might be the largest new state created by the twentieth century and the psychology of the twenty-first century. Phyllis Chesler psychologytwentiesmight Perhaps only some young women, perhaps only a minority of all women, will be able to effect such changes through consciousness alone, through the strength of understanding, which, if transformed into wisdom, always means the performance of necessary actions. Phyllis Chesler minoritiesunderstandingmean Jews have always yearned for Jerusalem, from which they'd been exiled many times, but they also yearned for each and every one of the countries where they had been persecuted and where their ancestors once lived and are still buried. Phyllis Chesler buriedjerusalemcountry
