I always had a fantasy of meeting a girl who was as serious as I was. Sheila Heti More Quotes by Sheila Heti More Quotes From Sheila Heti A daughter is more difficult than a rose. Sheila Heti more difficult daughter rose In 'Sweet Days of Discipline,' the narrator, years after graduating, fortuitously encounters her old friend Frederique at a movie theatre. Frederique invites her home. Sheila Heti friend discipline home sweet Raffi Cavoukian was born in Cairo in 1948 and moved with his Armenian parents to Toronto when he was 10. Sheila Heti parents he toronto born Everyone is their own kind of poet - you can't miss it when their words are written down. Sheila Heti words down own you The thing to do when you're feeling ambivalent is to wait. Sheila Heti thing wait feeling you Every choice you make has higher stakes - or that's how it feels. Sheila Heti make how choice you I don't think about the reader when I'm writing, but I do when I'm editing, of course. For instance, I self-consciously didn't want to do anything to increase the divide between mothers and nonmothers - I think that divide is so horrible and destructive and unnecessary. Sheila Heti think editing want writing Renown is something people have always wanted, but maybe what's modern is that it's considered a virtue, this desire, rather than a vice. I might be wrong about this. Sheila Heti wrong always desire people Writing, for me, when I'm writing in the first-person, is like a form of acting. So as I'm writing, the character or self I'm writing about and my whole self - when I began the book - become entwined. It's soon hard to tell them apart. The voice I'm trying to explore directs my own perceptions and thoughts. Sheila Heti thoughts me self character Everyone's always telling themselves stories about their lives, writers or not. Sheila Heti telling everyone about always There is a kind of sadness in not wanting the things that give so many other people their life's meaning. There can be sadness at not living out a more universal story - the supposed life cycle. Sheila Heti story sadness life people Sometimes you can't write a novel for weeks and weeks, but it's good for your self-esteem to work on something else. Sheila Heti good you work sometimes Only in our failures are we absolutely alone. Only in the pursuit of failure can a person really be free. Losers may be the avant garde of the modern age. Sheila Heti alone free failure age I think making friends you can work with is a skill like any other, developing those particular kinds of intimacies. They're intimacies like any other, but they grow in a definite direction, not just willy-nilly like normal friendships. Sheila Heti grow you friends work Fiction is a way for writers to preserve their friendships and their romances! Sheila Heti preserve friendships way fiction A woman will always be made to feel like a criminal, whatever choice she makes, however hard she tries. Mothers feel like criminals. Non-mothers do, too. Sheila Heti woman will feel choice Nonfiction, to me, feels like an argument, whereas a novel is like a series of questions. Sheila Heti questions like me argument Women without children can help mothers, and we can just be all in this together. Sheila Heti help women together children
