I am a leader by default, only because nature does not allow a vacuum. Desmond Tutu More Quotes by Desmond Tutu More Quotes From Desmond Tutu To forgive is not just to be altruistic. Desmond Tutu forgiving When a chap is in love, he will go out in all kinds of weather to keep an appointment with his beloved. Love can be demanding, in fact more demanding than law. It has its own imperatives - think of a mother sitting by the bedside of a sick child through the night, impelled only by love. Nothing is too much trouble for love. Desmond Tutu mother night children We must be ready to learn from one another, not claiming that we alone possess all truth and that somehow we have a corner on God. Desmond Tutu being-alone ready acceptance Life is more than breath and a heartbeat; meaning and purpose are the life of life. Desmond Tutu heartbeat purpose life-is Like when you sit in front of a fire in winter — you are just there in front of the fire. You don't have to be smart or anything. The fire warms you. Desmond Tutu smart fire winter It may be a procession of faithful failures that enriches the soil of godly success. Faithful actions are not religious acts. They are not even necessary actions undertaken by people of faith. Faithful actions, whether they are marked by success or they end in failure, are actions that are compelled by goodness. Desmond Tutu godly religious people ... freedom translates into having a supply of clean water, having electricity on tap; being able to live in a decent home and have a good job; to be able to send your children to school and to have accessible healthcare. I mean what's the point of having made this transition if the quality of life ... is not enhanced and improved? If not, the vote is useless. Desmond Tutu home jobs children Let girls be girls and not brides Desmond Tutu brides girl The only separation the Bible knows is between believers on the one hand and unbelievers on the other. Any other kind of separation, division, disunity is of the devil. It is evil and from sin. Desmond Tutu division evil hands Easter says to us that despite everything to the contrary, his will for us will prevail, love will prevail over hate, justice over injustice and oppression, peace over exploitation and bitterness. Desmond Tutu hate easter justice God is not a diversion. Desmond Tutu diversion We seek a restorative justice, not a retributive justice. Desmond Tutu restorative-justice retributive-justice justice We must not only speak about forgiveness and reconciliation, we must act on these principles. Desmond Tutu reconciliation speak principles Forgiveness is taking seriously the awfulness of what has happened when you are treated unfairly. Forgiveness is not pretending that things are other than the way they are. Desmond Tutu pretending forgiveness way Each person is a V.S.P. (a Very Special Person) because we are each created in the image of God. Desmond Tutu self-respect self-esteem special In God's family, there are no outsiders, no enemies. Desmond Tutu outsiders family enemy We must not allow ourselves to become like the system we oppose. We cannot afford to use methods of which we will be ashamed when we look back, when we say, '...we shouldn't have done that.' Desmond Tutu honesty integrity character When a pile of cups is tottering on the edge of the table and you warn that they will crash to the ground, in South Africa you are blamed when that happens. Desmond Tutu crash cups tables Because there is global insecurity, nations are engaged in a mad arms race, spending billions of dollars wastefully on instruments of destruction, when millions are starving. And yet, just a fraction of what is expended so obscenely on defense budgets would make the difference in enabling God's children to fill their stomachs, be educated, and given the chance to lead fulfilled and happy lives. Desmond Tutu educational real children When I talk of forgiveness I mean the belief that you can come out the other side ... a better person than the one being consumed by anger and hatred. Remaining in that state locks you in a state of victimhood, making you almost dependent on the perpetrator. If you can find it in yourself to forgive then you are no longer chained to the perpetrator. You can move on. Desmond Tutu hatred mean moving