I can't have my family in my life because they are abusive, and I don't have control over that. There is an abusive culture in my family, and I have to turn away from it. Tara Westover More Quotes by Tara Westover More Quotes From Tara Westover We'd had books in my house growing up, but we had never had anything like lectures. I had never written an essay for my mother. I had never taken an exam. Because I was working a lot as a kid, I just hadn't elected to read that much. Tara Westover never growing-up mother house I don't really feel like I belong anywhere. Tara Westover belong really feel like During my first semester of college, I raised my hand in a class and asked the professor to define a word I didn't know. The word was holocaust, and I had to ask because, until that moment, I had never heard of it. Tara Westover never know moment college Forgiveness isn't just the absence of anger. I think it's also the presence of self-love, when you actually begin to value yourself. Tara Westover yourself you forgiveness anger It's very difficult to continue to believe in yourself and that you're a good person when the people who know you best don't. Tara Westover best good you believe-in-yourself My brother once lit his leg on fire. And after, when the fire was finally out, his leg was covered in third-degree burns. And we made the decision - or my parents did - not to take him to the hospital but to treat that at home with a salve my mother made of comfrey and lobelia. Tara Westover brother fire mother home There's a sense of sovereignty that comes from life on a mountain. Tara Westover sense sovereignty mountain life Not knowing my birthday had never seemed strange. I knew I'd been born near the end of September, and each year I picked a day, one that didn't fall on a Sunday because it's no fun spending your birthday in church. Tara Westover day church birthday fall We think about education as a stepping stone into a higher socio-economic class, into a better job. And it does do those things. But I don't think that's what it really is. I experienced it as getting access to different ideas and perspectives and using them to construct my own mind. Tara Westover better job mind education When you abuse someone, you limit their perspective, and you trap them in your view of them or your view of the world. Tara Westover view you perspective world I think a lot of people have grown up with the idea that they can't learn things themselves. They think they need an institution to provide them with knowledge and teach them how to do things. I couldn't disagree more. Tara Westover need think people knowledge So, I was born and raised the youngest of seven children on this really beautiful mountain in Southern Idaho. But my dad had some radical beliefs. And because of those beliefs, we were isolated. So I was never allowed to go to school or to the doctor. Tara Westover doctor mountain beautiful children I had grown up preparing for the Days of Abomination, watching for the sun to darken, for the moon to drip as if with blood. Tara Westover watching moon sun blood I think if you're going to abuse someone, you really have to convince them of two things. First, you have to normalise what you're doing, convince them that it's not that bad. And the second thing is to convince them that they deserve it in some way. Tara Westover bad think you way You can miss someone every day and still be glad you don't have to see them. Tara Westover every-day someone day you My family was, I think, a bit more radical than most Mormons, especially on the question of gender. So in my mind, growing up, there wasn't ever any question of what my future would look like. I would get married when I was 17 or 18. And I would be given some corner of the farm, and my husband would put a house on it, and we would have kids. Tara Westover look future family mind My family always spent the warm months bottling fruit for storage, which Dad said we'd need in the Days of Abomination. Tara Westover warm fruit dad family An education is not so much about making a living as making a person. Tara Westover person about living education I taught myself algebra and a little grammar, and somehow I scraped a high enough score on the ACT to be admitted to Brigham Young University, even though I had no formal education. Tara Westover myself university enough education My parents would say to me, 'You can teach yourself anything better than someone else can teach it to you.' That was the whole ethos of my family. Tara Westover yourself me you family
