I don't recommend that people speak their minds to their bosses or to somebody who's directly over them. You need to know when to speak your mind and what the penalty will be for doing so. Sometimes it's worth it, and often it's not! Albert Ellis More Quotes by Albert Ellis More Quotes From Albert Ellis The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action. Albert Ellis get-better feel-better wise Being assertive does not mean attacking or ignoring others feelings. It means that you are willing to hold up for yourself fairly-without attacking others. Albert Ellis feelings attitude mean The goal...is not to change your desires and wishes but to persuade you to stop demanding that you absolutely must have what you wish-from yourself, from others, and from the world. You can by all means keep your wishes, preferences, and desires, but unless you prefer to remain needlessly anxious, not your grandiose demands. Albert Ellis goal wish mean Stop shoulding on yourself Albert Ellis The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery. Albert Ellis recovery acceptance attitude The great majority of the things we now make ourselves panicked about are self-created 'dangers' that exist almost entirely in our own imaginations. Albert Ellis imagination self worry Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human. Albert Ellis alive acceptance love If people stopped looking on their emotions as ethereal, almost inhuman processes, and realistically viewed them as being largely composed of perceptions, thoughts, evaluations, and internalized sentences, they would find it quite possible to work calmly and concertedly at changing them. Albert Ellis evaluation perception people In fact most of what we call anxiety is overconcern about what someone thinks of you. Albert Ellis anxiety worry thinking The emotionally sound person should be able to take risks, to ask himself what he really would like to do in life, and then to try to do this, even though he has to risk defeat or failure. He should be adventurous (though not necessarily foolhardy); be willing to try almost anything once, just to see how he likes it; and look forward to some breaks in his usual life routines. Albert Ellis risk sound trying Convince yourself that worrying about many situations will make them worse rather than improve them. Albert Ellis anxiety situation worry Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny. Albert Ellis destiny emotional responsibility You have only to exist as you do and to live your life as best you can. Albert Ellis live-your-life Religious creeds encourage some of the craziest kinds of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors and favor severe manifestations of neurosis, borderline personality states, and sometimes even psychosis. Albert Ellis psychosis personality religious People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. They always have the power to think, and to think about their thinking, and to think about thinking about their thinking, which the goddamn dolphin, as far as we know, can't do. Therefore they have much greater ability to change themselves than any other animal has. Albert Ellis animal people thinking Even when people act nastily to you, don't condemn them or retaliate. Albert Ellis blame hate people We'd better work hard on getting rid of that must - Other people must do what I want them to do!" It's what makes people hostile, nasty, mean and combative, and it leads to feuds, wars and genocide. We'd better do something about that. Albert Ellis hard-work war mean You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it. Albert Ellis clinical-depression given depression For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency. Albert Ellis dependency Strong feelings are fine; it's the overreactions that mess us up. Albert Ellis fine strong feelings
