I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them. Albert Ellis More Quotes by Albert Ellis More Quotes From Albert Ellis The trouble with most therapy is that it helps you feel better. But you don't get better. You have to back it up with action, action, action. Albert Ellis get-betterfeel-betterwise Being assertive does not mean attacking or ignoring others feelings. It means that you are willing to hold up for yourself fairly-without attacking others. Albert Ellis feelingsattitudemean The goal...is not to change your desires and wishes but to persuade you to stop demanding that you absolutely must have what you wish-from yourself, from others, and from the world. You can by all means keep your wishes, preferences, and desires, but unless you prefer to remain needlessly anxious, not your grandiose demands. Albert Ellis goalwishmean Stop shoulding on yourself Albert Ellis The attitude of unconditional self-acceptance is probably the most important variable in their long-term recovery. Albert Ellis recoveryacceptanceattitude The great majority of the things we now make ourselves panicked about are self-created 'dangers' that exist almost entirely in our own imaginations. Albert Ellis imaginationselfworry Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human. Albert Ellis aliveacceptancelove If people stopped looking on their emotions as ethereal, almost inhuman processes, and realistically viewed them as being largely composed of perceptions, thoughts, evaluations, and internalized sentences, they would find it quite possible to work calmly and concertedly at changing them. Albert Ellis evaluationperceptionpeople In fact most of what we call anxiety is overconcern about what someone thinks of you. Albert Ellis anxietyworrythinking The emotionally sound person should be able to take risks, to ask himself what he really would like to do in life, and then to try to do this, even though he has to risk defeat or failure. He should be adventurous (though not necessarily foolhardy); be willing to try almost anything once, just to see how he likes it; and look forward to some breaks in his usual life routines. Albert Ellis risksoundtrying Convince yourself that worrying about many situations will make them worse rather than improve them. Albert Ellis anxietysituationworry Whatever may be, I am still largely the creator and ruler of my emotional destiny. Albert Ellis destinyemotionalresponsibility You have only to exist as you do and to live your life as best you can. Albert Ellis live-your-life Religious creeds encourage some of the craziest kinds of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors and favor severe manifestations of neurosis, borderline personality states, and sometimes even psychosis. Albert Ellis psychosispersonalityreligious People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. They always have the power to think, and to think about their thinking, and to think about thinking about their thinking, which the goddamn dolphin, as far as we know, can't do. Therefore they have much greater ability to change themselves than any other animal has. Albert Ellis animalpeoplethinking Even when people act nastily to you, don't condemn them or retaliate. Albert Ellis blamehatepeople We'd better work hard on getting rid of that must - Other people must do what I want them to do!" It's what makes people hostile, nasty, mean and combative, and it leads to feuds, wars and genocide. We'd better do something about that. Albert Ellis hard-workwarmean You largely constructed your depression. It wasn't given to you. Therefore, you can deconstruct it. Albert Ellis clinical-depressiongivendepression For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency. Albert Ellis dependency Strong feelings are fine; it's the overreactions that mess us up. Albert Ellis finestrongfeelings
