I think you do it and it's something that I tell my girlfriends because ... we also don't need him to go somewhere else, i think in a marriage you do a lot of things that you may not be in the mood for. Am I really in the mood to cook tonight? Am I really in the mood to listen to your story about work? ... No, and so even if I'm not in the mood, I think as a friend, as a lover, as a partner, you make sure you get in the mood.