I want to say that, in general, when it works, open adoption is great. Jennifer Gilmore More Quotes by Jennifer Gilmore More Quotes From Jennifer Gilmore I will say in open adoption, all these choices you make about race, about the amount of mental illness you can deal with, about special needs and physical maladies, you have to lay all this out there before you know anybody's story. Jennifer Gilmore adoption choices race I know publishing now more as an author than with occasional peaks inside those elite offices than as an industry insider. It was difficult publishing a novel the first time around, while working behind the scenes, knowing all that has to happen to make a book a success and to still make the leap as an author. Jennifer Gilmore office knowing book The birth mother is placing the baby out of love. I still believe that. Well, the ones weve dealt with who were actually pregnant, anyway. Jennifer Gilmore mother baby believe I feel like if writers used writing as therapy we'd have a ton of happy writers. Jennifer Gilmore used writing feels With domestic adoption, you get a form, you fill it out, and there are these boxes: African-American, African-American and Hispanic, and you check the boxes that you're comfortable with. Race is completely open in that regard. Jennifer Gilmore african-american adoption race The world is a dysfunctional place in so many ways. It is unstable. So even though that chaos can be reflected in our own homes, I suppose we have to fight that by creating our own versions of safety, which can also turn into ignoring the state of the world. Jennifer Gilmore creating fighting home The process of open adoption is not discussed in the way it should be. Everyone I know who has adopted domestically has at least one tragic story. It was important to me to be able to describe those situations. Jennifer Gilmore adoption important way The past always sort of haunts us and perhaps inspires us in some ways. Jennifer Gilmore inspire way past My first two novels were set in the past, and that freed me up in a lot of ways; it allowed me to find my way into my story and my characters through research. Jennifer Gilmore character two past My father is an economist who specialized in foreign food policy, and my mother worked for AID, a branch of the State Department, so food in regards to world affairs was talked about a lot. Jennifer Gilmore mother father world It would be a lie to say that people are coming to adoption with joy at all times. Hope, perhaps, but it would be disingenuous to say that every part coming to an adoption isn't seriously grieving. Jennifer Gilmore grieving lying people Idea of the generations continuing is really important. And that's interesting to me. I write about families; I'm interested in families. Even though I think a family can be just two people or two people and a dog, I really wanted children for that reason. Jennifer Gilmore dog writing children I wanted a baby of color, to be honest, because I wasn't attached to the idea that I look like the biological mother. I liked the idea of the adoption being clear; it was and is not something I am interested in hiding. Jennifer Gilmore color mother baby I think that when the world feels safe and secure, we probably feel more that way in our personal lives. What goes on in the world affects us, unequivocally. Jennifer Gilmore goes-on world thinking I think publishing's strength is also its weakness. It's got such a rich and celebrated history as an industry. For the most part, publishing people are incredibly creative, business is done based on the strength of relationships, and the product being peddled is books. Jennifer Gilmore book people thinking I think we think that parenthood is confined to the country of mothers, but I think a lot of the men I've spoken to and the men who have read my books - I've been surprised by this actually - have a fierce attachment to being parents and to being fathers. And just as we, a lot of women I know, want this, men too want to pass down what they have to pass down. Jennifer Gilmore mother country father As writers, we don't just need to write about poverty or war or the immigrant experience. Jennifer Gilmore writing war needs I couldn't really experience being an author when I was still working in publishing - I was trying to negotiate being both. Sometimes the knowledge doesn't translate between the two roles. Jennifer Gilmore roles trying two Publishing in a way doesn't have a lot to do with writing, and writing doesn't have a lot to do with publishing. Jennifer Gilmore publishing writing way People might seem to have a perfectly fine life but inside, we don't even know if they've suffered. Jennifer Gilmore fine might people
