I will always be referred to as a theorist, but I was only a fellow traveller with a degree. Volkmar Sigusch More Quotes by Volkmar Sigusch More Quotes From Volkmar Sigusch You're married to a woman who has no objection to another woman joining the couple. Then she brings in her boyfriend. Suddenly you realize - my God! - you can love more than one person. In fact, you can love several people at the same time. Volkmar Sigusch joiningcouplepeople There will be other forms in addition to our classic marriage. One is already looming on the horizon: polyamory, or having more than one intimate partner. Volkmar Sigusch intimatehorizonclassic It's very important to approach pedophiles and pedosexuals and offer them therapy. It's been my experience that you can reach your objective with what I would call kind-hearted, informed and enlightened patients - in the sense that they don't lose their desire, but that they no longer have physical contact with children. That would be the goal. Volkmar Sigusch importantgoalchildren While the Internet generally tends to have a stress-relieving function for adults - as long as they aren't inclined toward sex addiction - I don't see this being the case for adolescents. Volkmar Sigusch stresslongsex The social problem is that we haven't come up with any alternative models. Our culture hasn't developed an ars erotica. Think, for example, of conditions in India or in Japanese culture and of how the erotic has been cultivated there. They're not as clinical and rabbit-like as we are. Volkmar Sigusch eroticalternativesthinking The traits of our sexual culture are still speechlessness, loneliness, violence and not enough desire and love. Volkmar Sigusch and-lovelonelinessdesire Fantasies have to remain dirty. Cleanliness, scrupulousness and rationality are poison for eroticism. Volkmar Sigusch fantasypoisondirty I maintain that we are still a largely ignorant society when it comes to sex. We speak incorrectly and superficially about sexuality. And when you talk about it too much, you run the risk of destroying its mystery. Volkmar Sigusch riskrunningsex Key feature of sexual revolution is the large-scale publication and commercialization of details that were once secret. Sexuality has been trivialized. The interesting thing about this is that exaggerated portrayals apparently destroy desire more effectively than any repression. Volkmar Sigusch keyssecretinteresting There are many options in a marriage. If the couple has been together for a certain amount of time and has a certain amount of liberalism or life experience, it could be the kind of relationship in which one partner ventures into the occasional affair, which is then forgiven. This only happens every 13 years on average, but it obviously does occur. Volkmar Sigusch coupleaverageyears With an intelligent couple, it ought to be possible for the husband or wife to look for satisfaction outside the relationship - while always taking the partner into consideration, meaning acting openly but still discreetly. Volkmar Sigusch husbandintelligentcouple It's important for a couple to talk about their sexual preferences. On the other hand, the aura of the mysterious should be preserved. Volkmar Sigusch coupleimportanthands When it comes to sexuality, people like to tell lies. It's only when it comes to money that they lie more. Volkmar Sigusch sexualitylyingpeople Good sex can be anything, including dirty. Volkmar Sigusch good-sexsexdirty Sexual desire declines after four to seven years. That's been proven. Volkmar Sigusch fourdesireyears I'm reminded of a female patient who was particularly aroused by the shape of her husband's shoulder. And this hint of perversion should ideally remain a secret for both partners. Volkmar Sigusch femalehusbandsecret Exaggerated portrayals apparently destroy desire more effectively than any repression. Volkmar Sigusch portrayalrepressiondesire For people who are desperate and searching, sexuality on the Internet offers an incredible release. Volkmar Sigusch incrediblesinternetpeople Internet sexuality shows that we're becoming more and more self-involved. I'm talking about self-sex. Volkmar Sigusch selftalkingsex The sexual revolution produced cultural convulsions that were unparalleled in the 20th century. The female sex was historically sexualized and required to have orgasms for the first time. Sexual "deviants," particularly homosexuals, achieved partial emancipation. Volkmar Sigusch femalesexfirsts
