If we are to develop an intimate relationship, we need to know each other's desires. If we wish to love each other, we need to know what the other person wants. Gary Chapman More Quotes by Gary Chapman More Quotes From Gary Chapman Others who openly discuss matters of spirituality often ignore the warning signs. They are so in love with each other, enjoy being with each other, and can see themselves making each other happy for the rest of their lives, and they close their eyes to huge differences in their views of spirituality. Gary Chapman differenceseyeviews A soft answer turns away anger. Gary Chapman turnsanswers Expressing love in the right language. We tend to speak our own love language, to express love to others in a language that would make us feel loved. But if it is not his/her primary love language, it will not mean to them what it would mean to us. Gary Chapman languagespeakmean We cannot rely on our native tongue if our spouse does not understand it. If we want them to feel the love we are trying to communicate, we must express it in his or her primary love language. Gary Chapman doewanttrying A child may be "spoiled" by a lack of training or by inappropriate love that gives or trains incorrectly. Gary Chapman traininggivingchildren The in-love experience does not focus on our own growth or on the growth and development of the other person. Rather, it gives us the sense that we have arrived and that we do not need further growth. Gary Chapman growthfocusgiving Good marriages are built upon a combination of emotional love and a common commitment to a core of beliefs about what is important in life and what we wish to do with our lives. Speaking each other's primary love language creates the emotional climate where these beliefs can be fleshed out in daily life. Gary Chapman emotionalwishcommitment I would encourage you to make your own investigation of the one whom, as He died, prayed for those who killed Him: 'Father forgive them for they know not what they do.' That is love's ultimate expression. Gary Chapman forgivingexpressionfather I think that in today's world, by nature, we are all self-centered. And that often leads to selfishness. Gary Chapman selfworldthinking The human race could not go on without reproduction, and marriage creates the most secure environment in which to raise children. Gary Chapman environmentmarriageracechildren There were only two things I knew in a Christian framework that I could do. One would be the pastor of a church, the other would be a missionary. I didn't particularly like snakes, so I decided I should probably be a pastor. Gary Chapman thingslikechurchchristian The fastest way to have a loving, supportive, understanding spouse is to become a loving, supportive, understanding spouse. Gary Chapman lovingbecomeunderstandingway If you are sitting on the couch with the TV off, and you are looking into each other's eyes and talking, that is quality time - so is taking a walk or going out to eat, so long as you are communicating with each other. Gary Chapman walkeyesyoutime That is the idea that good Christians don't talk about sex, at least not out loud, and certainly not in the church. I want to say that both of those ideas are fallacious. Gary Chapman goodchurchsexideas Sex was invented by God. Gary Chapman inventedgodsex As a senior in high school, I had a strong sense that God wanted me in some kind of ministry. Gary Chapman mestronggodschool When you're married, the person you would most like to love you is your spouse. And if you feel loved by your spouse, the world looks bright. But if the love tank is empty, and you don't feel loved by your spouse, the world begins to look dark. Gary Chapman lookyouloveworld In reality, relationships that are successful tend to take the attitude, 'How can I help you?' 'How can I enrich your life?' 'How can I be a better husband to you,' if it's a marriage. Gary Chapman youmarriageattitudelife It was God's idea to make us male and female. And God's the one that instituted marriage. Gary Chapman usmakemarriagegod For a long time, I have been wanting to write a book for singles that would help them in the dating process and in getting ready for marriage. Most of my writing, I've written to couples who are already married, because I've been doing marriage counseling for 35 years. Gary Chapman datingmarriagetimelong
