If we want abusers to change, we will have to require them to give up the luxury of exploitation. Lundy Bancroft More Quotes by Lundy Bancroft More Quotes From Lundy Bancroft The sense of ownership is one reason why abuse tends to get worse as relationships get more serious. The more history and commitment that develop in the couple, the more the abuser comes to think of his partner as a prized object. Possessiveness is at the core of the abuser's mindset, the spring from which all the other streams spout; on some level he feels that he owns you and therefore has the right to treat you as he sees fit. Lundy Bancroft couple spring commitment Abuse and respect are diametric opposites: You do not respect someone whom you abuse, and you do not abuse someone whom you respect. Lundy Bancroft respect-someone abuse opposites Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once. Lundy Bancroft abuse partners men
