If you apologize for something that isn't your fault in the first place, you, in effect, confirm their belief that it is your fault. Erica Jong More Quotes by Erica Jong More Quotes From Erica Jong Sadly, because of the enormous gap between rich and poor, some mothers can afford helpers, but many can't. Those who can would be kinder to refrain from criticizing other women. Erica Jong mothers-daywould-beinspiring My generation was not only maligned in book reviews and attacked in graduate school but we lived to see our adored and adorable daughters wonder why feminism had become a dirty word. Erica Jong daughtermotherdirty I'm interested in what happens to people when they get into that publicity machine. We tend to think things have changed, but there's still a deep sexism underlying the way women are treated publicly. Erica Jong machinespeoplethinking I don't cook. My mother didn't cook. My daughter doesn't cook. Erica Jong my-daughterdaughtermother A man assumes that a woman's refusal is just part of a game. Or, at any rate, a lot of men assume that. When a man says no, it's no. When a woman says no, it's yes, or at least maybe. There is even a joke to that effect. And little by little, women begin to believe in this view of themselves. Erica Jong viewsmenbelieve The best slave does not need to be beaten. She beats herself. Erica Jong slavedoeneeds I am not sure if love is a salve or just a deeper kind of wound. Erica Jong not-surekindlove-is What was the point of spending your life with someone you were always looking for ways to decieve? Erica Jong spendingway It takes a spasm of love to write a poem. Erica Jong writing I look forward and see myself look back. Erica Jong looks Love is love, but marriage is an investment. Erica Jong investmentlove-is Each one an antidote to the one that went before. Each one a reaction, an about-face, a rebound. Erica Jong reboundreactionsfaces Unhappiness is our element. We come to believe we can't function without it. Erica Jong unhappinesselementsbelieve How could one create life with someone who represented death? Erica Jong Is perception equivalent to existence? Erica Jong existenceperception I convinced myself that sadness and compromise were the ways of the world. Erica Jong sadnesswayworld All people believe their suffering is greater than others. Erica Jong sufferingbelievepeople It's only when you're forbidden to talk about the future that you suddenly realize how much the future normally occupies the present. Erica Jong forbiddenrealizing Since flesh can't stay, we pass the words along. Erica Jong flesh Friends love misery... our misery is what endears us to our friends. Erica Jong friend-lovemisery
