In order to be invested in our own learning or anything we're doing, we need to feel like we have some control over the details of it. We need to have some autonomy and control over the details of it. We need to feel competent, and if parents are fixing homework for us, the kid never really gets to feel competent because the parent's the one fixing it and they really need to feel invested and connected to the material.

Jessica Lahey

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Every single time we turn around and say, 'I'll just do that for you' or 'Here let me help you with that,' we are saying to them, 'I don't think you can do that for yourself,' and that is really damaging over time. We create a really helpless culture of kids so that now when I talk to college professors, they say these kids show up to college unable to handle anything on their own.

But he came home at the end of the day and he's like, 'It's fine. I talked to my teacher,' giving kids the opportunity to problem solve when something goes wrong, there's nothing better than that and when we take that away from them, it's a real tragedy.

We want to feel needed and so when we take that homework assignment to school for them and rescue them, we feel we get to check that box off today. 'I was a good parent,'.