Intimacy is the capacity to be rather weird with someone - and finding that that's ok with them. Alain de Botton More Quotes by Alain de Botton More Quotes From Alain de Botton We may not agree with what religions are trying to teach us, but we can admire the institutional way in which they're doing it. Alain de Botton soulgodtrying The attentions of others matter to us because we are afflicted by a congenital uncertainty as to our own value, as a result of which affliction we tend to allow others' appraisals to play a determining role in how we see ourselves. Our sense of identity is held captive by the judgements of those we live among. Alain de Botton judgementidentityplay Wealth is not an absolute. It is relative to desire. Every time we yearn for something we cannot afford, we grow poorer, whatever our resources. And every time we feel satisfied with what we have, we can be counted as rich, however little we may actually possess. Alain de Botton desiremaylittles Our jobs make relentless calls on a narrow band of our faculties, reducing our chances of achieving rounded personalities and leaving us to suspect (often in the gathering darkness of a Sunday evening) that much of who we are, or could be, has gone unexplored. Alain de Botton sundaypersonalityjobs We are tempted to believe that certain achievements and possessions will give us enduring satisfaction. We are invited to imagine ourselves scaling the steep cliff face of happiness in order to reach a wide, high plateau on which we will live out the rest of our lives; we are not reminded that soon after gaining the summit, we will be called down again into fresh lowlands of anxiety and desire. Alain de Botton givingorderbelieve It's as though either you accept [religious] doctrine and then you can have all the nice stuff, or you reject the doctrine and you're living in some kind of spiritual wasteland under the guidance of CNN and Walmart. Alain de Botton religiousspiritualgod The secular world is full of holes. We have secularized badly. Alain de Botton soulgodworld Most victories are, in the best way, acts of revenge. Alain de Botton victoryrevengeway To one's enemies: "I hate myself more than you ever could. Alain de Botton self-loathinghateenemy The pre-scientific age, whatever its deficiencies, had at least offered its members the peace of mind that follows from knowing all man-made achievements to be nothing next to the grandeur of the universe. We, more blessed in our gadgetry but less humble in our outlook, have been left... having no more compelling repository of veneration than our brilliant, precise, blinkered and morally troubling fellow human beings. Alain de Botton blessedhumblemen Newspapers are being read all around. The point is not, of course, to glean new information, but rather to coax the mind out of its sleep-induced introspective temper. Alain de Botton informationmindsleep Choosing a spouse and a choosing career: the two great decisions for which society refuses to set up institutional guidance. Alain de Botton careersdecisiontwo Being funny should be an incidental byproduct of trying to get to something truthful, not a destination in itself. Alain de Botton truthfulshouldtrying The bourgeois thinkers of the eighteenth century thus turned Aristotle's formula on its head: satisfactions which the Greek philosopher had identified with leisure were now transposed to the sphere of work, while tasks lacking in any financial reward were drained of all significance and left to the haphazard attentions of decadent dilettantes. It now seemed as impossible that one could be happy and unproductive as it had once seemed unlikely that one could work and be human. Alain de Botton leisurerewardsgreek It is perhaps sad books that best console us when we are sad, and to lonely service stations that we should drive when there is no one for us to hold or love. Alain de Botton lonelyshouldbook Status Anxiety: A worry, so pernicious as to be capable of ruining extended stretches of our lives, that we are in danger of failing to conform to the ideals of success laid down by our society and that we may as a result be stripped of dignity and respect; a worry that we are currently occupying too modest a rung or are about to fall to a lower one. Alain de Botton successhappinessfall For all his understanding of worldly concerns, when it came to fathoming the deeper meaning of his own furious activity, Sir Bob displayed the sort of laziness for which he himself had no patience in others. He appeared to have only a passing interest in the overall purpose of his financial accumulation. Alain de Botton boblazinessunderstanding An understandable hunger for potential clients tempts many [career counseling therapists] to overpromise, like creative writing teachers who, out of greed or sentimentality, sometimes imply that all of their students could one day produce worthwhile literature, rather than frankly acknowledging the troubling truth, anathema to a democratic society, that the great writer, like the contented worker, remains an erratic and anomalous event, immune to the methods of factory farming. Alain de Botton careerswritingteacher Alcohol-inspired fights are a reminder of the price we pay for our daily submission at the altars of prudence and order. Alain de Botton alcoholfightingorder The real issue is not whether baking biscuits is meaningful, but the extent to which the activity can seem to be so after it has been continuously stretched and subdivided across five thousand lives. Alain de Botton issuesrealmeaningful
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