Is it possible that my sons-in-law will do toilets? If we raise boys to know that diapers need to be changed and refrigerators need to be cleaned, there's hope for the next generation. Anne Roiphe More Quotes by Anne Roiphe More Quotes From Anne Roiphe I know that family life in America is a minefield, an economic trap for women, a study in disappointment for both sexes. Anne Roiphe family disappointment sex God is a God of Lovingkindness. Anne Roiphe lovingkindness god They want to play at being mothers. So let them. Expressing tenderness in their own way will not prevent girls from enjoying a successful career in the future; indeed, the ability to nurture is as valuable a skill in the workplace as the ability to lead. Anne Roiphe girl successful mother How deep is our desire to do better than our mothers--to bring daughters into adulthood strong and fierce yet loving and gentle, adventurous and competitive but still nurturing and friendly, sweet yet sharp. We know as working women that we can't quite have it all, but that hasn't stopped us from wanting it all for them. Anne Roiphe daughter mother sweet Friendship needs both confidences and confidence in the other's outstretched hand. Anne Roiphe friends friendship hands Self-pity is never useful. It tends to distort like a fun-house mirror. Anne Roiphe mirrors self fun If I were planning to be stranded on a desert island, I wouldn't take Freud's books with me, because I've already read them all. Anne Roiphe desert islands book You have to have a certain kind of thickening of the hide. I mean, I'm not particularly worried about what other people think. If other people think that I was not the world's most perfect mother, they are completely right. Anne Roiphe mother mean thinking Romanticizing the act of writing or any other art is not very helpful to the artist or the art. It's much better if one simply does. Anne Roiphe doe writing art You can be creative and not addictive, or addictive and not creative. Most addicted people do not produce anything of remarkable note. Anne Roiphe notes creative people Everybody is bound by some social rules. But I think that artists need some kind of freedom to explore their minds and that some of them tend to take that freedom to live a little more openly or a little more dangerously, sometimes a lot more self-destructively, than other people. Anne Roiphe artist self thinking I have two writer daughters, and a psychoanalyst daughter, and a lawyer daughter, and they wish we didn't write, I'm sure, but we write. If we were a painting family, we would paint. Anne Roiphe daughter writing two I think that certainly the artists of the '40s, '50s and '60s were fighting a very conformist society, which didn't give them enough space to live or create, and they were bucking all kinds of spoken and unspoken rules. Anne Roiphe fighting artist thinking When I grew up, you needed to have straight hair. It's symbolic of needing to be like everyone else, needing to look like everyone else. And what that meant was looking like the dominant ruling class in America. Anne Roiphe hair class america You have to be a lover of books without expecting more of them than they give - a little pleasure, a little insight, a moment of escape, a deepening of your own humanity. Not much else. Anne Roiphe humanity giving book You need your freedom. You need to be able to do what you want to do as a journalist, as a person who's speaking for other women as you speak for yourself, and you make a choice. You have to be tough enough to take the consequences of that choice. Anne Roiphe choices want needs Sometimes what we call love is just a settling of old scores, or a seeking of forbidden pain, or a circuitous path to the kingdom of cruelty, or she may simply have confused lack of capital with heroism while searching for rescue without knowing from what. Anne Roiphe confused pain love-is We were not always 70, or rather our 70 is an accumulation of all the other ways we were. Our 5-year-old selves became our 10-year-old selves, and so on and on; and if we unpack our selves, the full album appears. Every moment is a part of the following moment, and we are all a continuum. Anne Roiphe self age years We flashed our feathers when the feathers were fit to be flashed, and now, in drearier days, many stay indoors. Anne Roiphe fit youth age You really can't say things that upset someone in print and expect them to be nice and leave you their money. That's just not reasonable. Anne Roiphe print upset nice
