It was all the things you could never understand and could never possess that made you ache. Deb Caletti More Quotes by Deb Caletti More Quotes From Deb Caletti It's shocking the things we call love. Deb Caletti shocking-things shocking surprise They never told you that stranger might be someone you knew. Deb Caletti stranger might So I put up with bad behavior in the name of loving the way I thought you were supposed to love. Deb Caletti behavior names way Anyway, madness and genius. They're the disturbed pals of the human condition. The Bonnie and Clyde, the Thelma and Louise, the baking soda and vinegar. Insanity just walks alongside the brilliant like some creepy, insistent shadow. Deb Caletti shadow creepy insanity It's strange, isn't it, how the idea of belonging to someone can sound so great? It can be comforting, the way it makes things decided. We like the thought of being held, until it's too tight. We like that certainty, until it means there's no way out. And we like being his, until we realize we're not ours anymore. Deb Caletti comforting mean ideas A person who says "it's your decision" is informing you that your decision sucks. Deb Caletti informing decision persons I've come to the conclusion that it's all about fear- fear that your kid won't come out on top, be a success. Forcing him into these brutal encounters will a) make a dame sure he is a success, and b) all you to see evidence of that success with the added bonus of a cheering crowd. This means that sports are supported with an almost desperate enthusiasm. The football team gets catered dinners before a fame. Honor Society is lucky if it gets a cupcake. Academic success-forget it. That requires too much imagination. There's no scoreboard. Deb Caletti cheer football sports It can be exhausting eating a meal cooked by a man. With a woman, it's, Ho hum, pass the beans. A guy, you have to act like he just built the Taj Mahal. Deb Caletti guy cooking men Too often in my life, love has been defined as "humiliation with occasional roses". Deb Caletti occasional love-life rose Once, I had to drive Oliver to soccer, was ten minutes late, and learned that there had apparently been a misprint in the Bible on the Ten Commandments thing: Thou shalt not murder, thou shalt not commit adultery, thou shalt not be late to soccer. My father was so pissed, I practically had to get the lightning bolt surgically removed from my back. Deb Caletti lightning soccer father You take care of the people you love, but it’s true, too, that you take care of the things you own. Deb Caletti take-care care people Love is ease, love is comfort, love is support and respect. Love is not punishing or controlling. Love lets you grow and breathe. Love's passion is only good passion -- swirling-leaves-on-a-fall-day passion, a-sky-full-of-magnificent-stars passion -- not angst and anxiety. Love is not hurt and harm. Love is never unsafe. Love is sleeping like puzzle pieces. It's your own garden you protect; it's a field of wildflowers you move about in both freely and together. Deb Caletti stars hurt moving It's hard to see clearly when your eyes are squinched tight out of fear. Deb Caletti hard eye Accents are funny in that they have this odd draw for us, yet we forget we have one, too. No one is without an accent, but the one you’ve got seems like oatmeal to their caviar. Deb Caletti caviar oatmeal forget Maybe we all just want to feel special, even for a little while, to be fooled for a bit into feeling something besides the truth of our own ordinariness. Deb Caletti special want feelings A drop of poison on that gathering snow. That moment in the fairy tale when we know what just happened but the princess doesn’t. Deb Caletti princess gathering snow Because words were hills and valleys you traveled, so lovely sometimes that they hurt your eyes. Deb Caletti lovely eye hurt We are all a volume on a shelf of a library, a story unto ourselves, never possibly described with one word or even very accurately with thousands. A person is never as quiet or unrestrained as they seem, or as bad or good, as vulnerable or as strong, as sweet or as fiesty; we are thickly layered, page upon lying page, behind simple covers. And love - it is not the book itself, but the binding. It can rip us apart or hold us together. Deb Caletti sweet love life A new person in your life gives the rest of you a chance to be new, too. Your life can be whatever you want it to, from there on out. I leaned in and kissed and that is who I was to him, not shy, but bold. Not inhibited, but brave. I was that to him and so I kept being that. It was what I thought he wanted and what he was attracted to, and yet it was this, this exact thing I wasn't even really, that made him the most insecure. Deb Caletti insecure brave giving People always ask, "How do you get in the mind of the teen reader?" I think all human beings have these common threads. We struggle with the same things. We desire love and attachment. We have to sort out how much we want to be attached and be independent, how we manage need and being needed and being hurt. These are things that begin when we're - how old? Then in those teen years we start to really feel them. Deb Caletti independent hurt struggle