Lack of forgiveness of others breeds lack of self-forgiveness. Albert Ellis More Quotes by Albert Ellis More Quotes From Albert Ellis Happiness is experienced largely in striving towards a goal, not in having attained things, because our nature is always to want to go on to the next endeavor. Albert Ellis goal goes-on want We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today. Albert Ellis people past thinking People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. Albert Ellis depression inspirational people Even injustice has it's good points. It gives me the challenge of being as happy as I can in an unfair world. Albert Ellis challenges giving world People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. They always have the power to think, and to think about their thinking, and to think about thinking about their thinking, which the goddamn dolphin, as far as we know, can't do. Therefore they have much greater ability to change themselves than any other animal has, and I hope that REBT teaches them how to do it. Albert Ellis animal people thinking My rational emotive behavior therapy (REBT) was one of the very few therapies that was originated partly or largely because I wanted to be brief and efficient. And therefore right from the start I was active and directive. I tried to show people some central masturbatory core to their philosophy and to get them to work at changing it cognitively, emotionally and behaviorally. Albert Ellis behavior philosophy people In a sense, the religious person must have no real views of his own and it is presumptuous of him, in fact, to have any. In regard to sex-love affairs, to marriage and family relations, to business, to politics, and to virtually everything else that is important in his life, he must try to discover what his god and his clergy would like him to do; and he must primarily do their bidding. Albert Ellis real religious sex Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional. Albert Ellis sickness self-esteem men We can actually put the essence of neurosis in a single word: blaming - or damning. Albert Ellis neurosis blame essence The emotionally mature individual should completely accept the fact that we live in a world of probability and chance, where there are not, nor probably ever will be, any absolute certainties, and should realize that it is not at all horrible, indeed—such a probabilistic, uncertain world. Albert Ellis chance facts world The Freudian tradition will never completely die because it has a few good points. For example, people have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware. Most of cognitive therapy has now adopted a similar idea. On the other hand, the relationship part of psychoanalysis - where you must have a deep, emotional relationship with the client - will, I think, get kicked in the teeth one of these days. Albert Ellis emotional ideas thinking And just as two wrongs don't make a right, rage against offenders is probably the worst way to try to correct them. Albert Ellis hate trying two Needing leads to bleeding - to almost all inevitable suffering. Albert Ellis bleeding acceptance suffering Whining about your own, others', or the world's failings is a main element in what we usually call neurosis. Albert Ellis neurosis elements world Failure doesn't have anything to do with your intrinsic value as a person. Albert Ellis intrinsic-value failure persons Freudian therapists do a lot of listening and very little persuading, and that was one of the reasons I eventually gave up being an analyst. You had to be too passive and not speak up, and you couldn't give homework to clients. While I was still an analyst, I wrote several articles criticizing psychoanalysis, but the analysts weren't listening to my objections. So I finally quit psychoanalysis after practicing it for six years. Albert Ellis listening giving years The world consists mainly of love slobs who need other people's approval. Most people don't live their own lives very well. Albert Ellis people world needs Is self-esteem a sickness? That's according to the way you define it. In the usual way it is defined by people and by psychologists, I'd say that it is probably the greatest emotional disturbance known to man and woman. Albert Ellis emotional self-esteem men People are terrified of other people or difficult projects because they tell themselves that they could fail or be rejected. Failure can lead to sorrow, regret, frustration and annoyance-all healthy feelings without which people couldn't exist. Albert Ellis frustration regret people For that again, is what all manner of religion essentially is: childish dependency. If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic. People don't just get upset. They contribute to their upsetness. People have motives and thoughts of which they are unaware. Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world. Self-esteem is the greatest sickness known to man or woman because it's conditional. The art of love is largely the art of persistence. Albert Ellis real self-esteem art
