Manner is personality—the outward manifestation of one’s innate character and attitude toward life. Emily Post More Quotes by Emily Post More Quotes From Emily Post To the old saying that man built the house but woman made of it a 'home' might be added the modern supplement that woman accepted cooking as a chore but man has made of it a recreation. Emily Post house home men The fault of bad taste is usually in over-dressing. Quality not effect, is the standard to seek for. Emily Post faults quality taste Make sure that you emphasize that the time you're going to be spending together is time that you're looking forward to, because this can look like you don't want to spend that much time with them, start out by saying' we are so looking forward to spending the holiday with you, coming over for dinner,' whatever it is that you guys are going to be doing together, really emphasize how thrilled you are to be doing that. Emily Post top-news It's OK to say no at the start before you even have to get into where you're staying and all that jazz, you can say,' I think we're going to stay at home this year, but thank you so much' if you really don't want to be going. Emily Post top-news It's perfectly OK to say,' due to schedules and the way this holiday is working out, it would be easier for us if you were able to stay in one of the local inns or hotels,'. Emily Post top-news This is so situation-dependent. Emily Post top-news I would instead say,' I know that things can sometimes get tense, so I was just thinking it might be best if I stay at the hotel and then come over for all of the events, and I can even help you prep,' Offer to take part. Emily Post top-news