Nobody ever talks about the mean things that girls do to each other. Rosalind Wiseman More Quotes by Rosalind Wiseman More Quotes From Rosalind Wiseman When I tell people I work to stop hazing in high schools I am almost always met with shocked expressions. "High school? Really? I thought that was something that only arrogant frat guys do in college." But it's true - as long as I have worked on preventing bullying in high schools, I have worked to prevent hazing. Rosalind Wiseman bullying college school Mainstream media is portraying girls at younger ages who are mimicking the worst of obnoxious, stereotypical girl behavior ... rolling eyes, moving the hips around, being catty, so what girls are getting is that by 8 or 9, this is sort of a 'normal' way to act. Rosalind Wiseman living We talk about role modeling but very rarely do adults look at their own behavior and say 'What am I doing?'. Rosalind Wiseman living The hazing experience and then the subsequent participation in the group forces its members to maintain the status quo and traditions at all costs. It demands mindlessness and unquestioned loyalty, resulting in boring people who have little ability to think for themselves or have an opposing viewpoint from those who have the most social power. Rosalind Wiseman experience loyalty power people Well, I think having your kids see you role model behavior of dignity when it's hard, when you're upset, when you want to confront somebody but you don't want to and you're nervous about it, when you are having moments where abuse of power is coming on to you. I think it's really important for kids to see how you handle that. Rosalind Wiseman think you moments power Many kids who are bullied feel helpless. Sometimes, they think the only thing they can do is hope the problem will go away. But there are things you can do to get some control in the situation and it starts with developing a strategy and a support system. Rosalind Wiseman feel you support hope I talk to teens everyday about topics that are often extraordinarily uncomfortable. Rosalind Wiseman about talk uncomfortable everyday