Nobody has said to men, It is OK if you want to be a full-time dad; find a woman who will support you. Warren Farrell More Quotes by Warren Farrell More Quotes From Warren Farrell We would not think of allowing a man to determine a woman's life merely because a fetus he helped create was in her womb; then why would we allow a woman to determine a man's life merely because a fetus he helped create is in her womb? Warren Farrell fetus men thinking The most unacknowledged spending expectation among women is the amount of time spent by single mothers caring for children, not only physically, but psychologically. It is my feeling that only a small percentage of a mother's time is normally compensated for by child support, given what a woman could make adding these hours to workforce hours. It is why women who have never been married and never had children earn so much more in the workplace than women who have had children. Warren Farrell caring mother children The money men make from their willingness to work the least desirable hours is not a sign of discrimination against women, but a sign of the willingness of mostly married men to lose sleep to support the family as their wife loses sleep to feed the child. A willingness to do the uncomfortable shifts is one reason married men earn more than twice what never-married men earn. Men's contribution, made at night, need not be lost in the dark. Warren Farrell dark sleep children Somehow, women's romance novels are not titled He Stopped When I Said "No". They are, though, titled Sweet Savage Love, in which the woman rejects the hand of her gentler lover who saves her from the rapist and marries the man who repeatedly and savagely rapes her. It is this "marry the rapist" theme that not only turned Sweet Savage Love into a best-seller but also into one of women's most enduring romance novels. Warren Farrell sweet men hands Raising children was not designed for single parents. (Which is why divorce was such a taboo prior to birth control). Warren Farrell divorce parent children If my parents had made love a tenth of a second earlier or later, I wouldn't exist. What an enormous miracle, just being given life. Warren Farrell just-being miracle parent Dads in the family are even more important than women in the workplace. The workplace benefits from women, but the family needs dads. Warren Farrell dad important needs Were we to still be circumcising the hood of the female clitoris, we would not have difficulty considering this a continuation of our tradition to keep girls sexually repressed. America's reflexive continuation of [male] circumcision-without-research reflects the continuation of our tradition to desensitize boys to feelings of pain, to prepare them to question the disposability of their bodies no more than they would question the disposability of their foreskins. Warren Farrell pain girl boys Why do we resist giving help to homeless men? In part because we don't understand how our pressure on men to support families often forces men to take transient jobs that are but a step away from homelessness (the death-of-a-salesman jobs, the migrant worker jobs...) and in part because we respond differently to men who fail [than women who fail]. Warren Farrell jobs giving men Men don't oppress women any more than women oppress men. Warren Farrell men I found that women entrepreneurs earn 50% less than their male counterparts. Warren Farrell males entrepreneur found Black men, Indian men, and gay men have all have something in common: They do not provide an economic security blanket for women. Warren Farrell black gay men Feminists often discuss women having two jobs: work and children. True. But no one discusses those divorced and remarried men who have three jobs: work, and two sets of children to nurture and financially support. Warren Farrell jobs men children Sometimes I have a feeling, when I look back on my life, that all I've been through has prepared me perfectly for just what I'm doing now. Warren Farrell feelings sometimes looks By starving our children of men, we have made them more vulnerable to the very abuse we are trying to prevent. Warren Farrell abuse men children Ideally there should not be a men's movement but a gender transition movement; only the power of the women's movement necessitates the temporary corrective of a men's movement. And this creates a special challenge for men: There are few political movements filled with healthy people, yet few healthy changes have occurred without political movements. Warren Farrell political men people By giving women training to sue a company for a 'hostile environment' if someone tells a dirty joke, we are training women to run to the Government as Substitute Husband (or Father). This gets companies to fear women, but not to respect women. The best preparation we can give women to succeed in the workplace is the preparation to overcome barriers rather than to sue: successful people don't sue, they succeed. Warren Farrell husband running father Although our grammar schools are teaching a whole generation computer language to adjust to the technological needs of a Stage II [post survival-focused] society, we have neglected to teach this generation relationship language and conflict resolution skills to address the social and psychological needs of a Stage II society. And when it is taught, in countries like Germany, although called social competence it focuses on workplace teamwork - still on survival, breadwinner oriented work goals. Warren Farrell teamwork teaching country Since no one is always right, always being right is really a role model for his children feeling inadequate. Warren Farrell role-models feelings children By the 1970s, the American woman was being called 'liberated' or 'superwoman' while the American man was being called 'baby killer' if he fought in Vietnam, 'traitor' if he protested, or 'apathetic' if he did neither. Even men who came home paraplegics were literally spit on. Warren Farrell home baby men
