Relaxation is the doorway to both wisdom and compassion. Tara Brach More Quotes by Tara Brach More Quotes From Tara Brach We are continually experiencing the conditioning to hold on, tighten, or resist. Tara Brach conditioning Making a U-turn from our thoughts to our feelings re-connects us to our own inner experience and creates the grounds for connecting with others in a more authentic way. It's a movement from head to heart. Tara Brach movement feelings heart The main thing going on around intimacy is that we've developed a lot of strategies so we'll be a desirable package. Tara Brach packages strategy intimacy Become a witness to your thoughts. Tara Brach witness Emotions are the interaction of thoughts and of sensations in the body. Tara Brach interaction emotion body It is natural that our minds replay old stories, because that is our own mechanism for trying to work out unresolved problems. Yet rerunning those stories will be a fruitless looping until we learn how to move from the story into our body. This is why therapy alone often doesn't bring full healing and awakening. Tara Brach work-out healing moving This is for anyone reading this who wants to explore it. Recognize the thought, "Afraid of loving," then gently put your hand on your heart to send a message of kindness. Tara Brach reading kindness heart The process of radical acceptance is to accept that a story has appeared in the mind, and then deepen the attention to see clearly what's happening in the body, to regard those feelings and sensations with kindness and acceptance, and to notice how they come and go. Tara Brach acceptance kindness feelings Stories can be a jumping-off point to access the emotions and the sensations in the body. Tara Brach jumping body stories When caught in conflict and blame - make a U-turn and shift your attention from blaming thoughts to what's going on emotionally in your body. Tara Brach blame body attention I mentioned earlier the two wings of awareness. The first step is recognizing the fear of getting close to others - this honest witnessing of where it is in the body, where it is in your beliefs.The other wing regards what's seen with kindness and compassion. Tara Brach compassion kindness wings Somewhere in my early twenties I realized I was pretty constantly monitoring myself, judging how I was always falling short, whether it was about not being a good enough daughter or friend, or my appearance, or whatever. I ended up becoming involved with a spiritual path in the yogic tradition, living in an ashram, doing a very rigorous spiritual practice. Tara Brach daughter spiritual fall If it weren't for desire, the formless would not have come into form and engage creatively. Tara Brach form ifs desire I registered the dukkha of self-aversion with such clarity that I knew there was no freedom unless I could love this life without holding back. This didn't mean I was going to ignore my flaws and stop seeking to improve what I could. But in the deepest way, I was not going to fixate on the conclusion that something was wrong with me. Tara Brach aversion self mean I'd known that I had the capacity to love, that I enjoyed seeing other people be happy, that I had a real awe and wonder about the beauty of this world. Tara Brach awe-and-wonder capacity-to-love real In intimate relationships, if we start trying to be more real, it's very scary. Tara Brach scary real intimate-relationships This longing to express and celebrate life is innate and quite beautiful. Tara Brach longing life-is beautiful I don't believe I'm bad, and I do believe I'm good. Tara Brach dont-believe believe I want to accept myself completely, just as I am. Tara Brach accepting want If I'm judging the attachment, myself, or another person, then I create separation. Tara Brach separation attachment judging
