Shadow-making happens in families and makes us who we are. It leads to shadow-work, which makes us who we can become. Connie Zweig More Quotes by Connie Zweig More Quotes From Connie Zweig As each layer of shadow is mined from the darkness, as each fear is faced and each projection reclaimed, the gold shines through. Connie Zweig shining darkness fear Once you uncover the history of this pattern and trace its roots, you will see that your reaction in the present moment is really a reaction from the past, a shadow character's attempt to protect you from reexperiencing an old emotional wound, which instead sabotages you in the present. Connie Zweig emotional character past The rewards are profound. Shadow-work enables us to alter our self-sabotaging behavior so that we can achieve a more self-directed life. Connie Zweig shadow-work self life If you can hold the tension of opposite points of view in your intimate relationships with people, instead of making somebody right and somebody wrong, you are really taking an evolutionary step. Connie Zweig intimate-relationships views opposites Unconscious of your story, you are in its grasp; but with consciousness, an alchemical process begins: The solidity of the complex dissolves and you can open up to the arrival of a new archetype, the birth of a new cycle of life. In the shadow, then, lies our myth and our fate. Connie Zweig fate life lying To sin is to be off the mark, that is, to inhibit development, contracting backward into regression rather than expanding forward into growth. Connie Zweig regression growth development There are certainly statistics which show that most people who become sociopaths, who become homicidal, who become child- abusers, have had a history of incredible suffering. This is what we call the transmission of family sin, in which these unconscious patterns get carried on for generations in a legacy of pain. When they are not brought to awareness and worked through, each generation just automatically enacts them. Connie Zweig pain children people The shadow disguises itself in our projections, when we react intensely to a trait in others that we fail to see in ourselves. Connie Zweig disguise failing shadow Each of us wrestles with the dark giant in our own way. Connie Zweig giants dark way I remember when the Cold War ended, how quickly the United States was swept by a nationalistic fervor and turned against Saddam Hussein. As soon as we lost our age-old enemy, the Soviet Union, we instantly created a new one. Connie Zweig age war enemy There is an enemy-maker in each of us. We make enemies of the people we love the most and the people we know the least. Connie Zweig makers people enemy
