She could see that to lose a sibling was hard: it could only seem unnatural:out of time, out of order, a vicious re-run of your own departure into nothingness. Fay Weldon More Quotes by Fay Weldon More Quotes From Fay Weldon I learned that sex was not a question of victory or defeat, of pleasure or profit: of a hand's manipulation and a physical response: I learned that in its purest pleasure it belongs to neither of those who practise it, in the same way as a child belongs to neither parent: it is a free spirit: it simply exists. Fay Weldon children sex hands Preserve your peace of mind. There is not much time; all things end in death. Do not lament the past too much, or fear the future too acutely, ot waste too much energy on other peoples' woes, in case the present dissolves altogether. Fay Weldon energy mind past Writers were never meant to be professionals. Writing is not a profession, it is an activity, an essentially amateur occupation. It is what you do when you are not living. Fay Weldon profession occupation writing I know truth is more like a mountain that has to be scaled. The peak of the mountain pierces the clouds and can only rarely be seen, and has never been reached. And what you see of it, moreover, depends upon the flank of the mountain you stand upon, and how exhausted getting even so far has made you. Virtue lies in looking upwards, toiling upwards, and sometimes joyously leaping from one precarious crag of fact and feeling to the next. Fay Weldon feelings clouds lying How has anyone ever understood anyone, except through love, which is wordless? Fay Weldon understood For that is what a child should be, and seldom is, the product of man and woman, of opposing natures, unified, however temporarily, by the amazing, circling, weaving dance of love and lust and God's involvement in it. Fay Weldon lust men children Men are irrelevant. Women are happy or unhappy, fulfilled or unfulfilled, and it has nothing to do with men. Fay Weldon feminist unhappy men As it has turned out, the whole relationship between men, women and children has tilted, to the disadvantage of women. Fay Weldon disadvantages men children Youth gives a sense of new days dawning bright, going on for ever, and a kind of tamped-down excitement which keeps breaking through even the worst days of poverty, depression and loneliness. But then youth is something which only exists in retrospect; you are barely conscious of it while you have it. Fay Weldon loneliness giving new-day The peculiar need to write is increased, it seems, rather than allayed with practice. Fay Weldon peculiar practice writing Writing is an act of generosity toward other people. Fay Weldon generosity writing people Writing is more than just the making of a series of comprehensible statements: it is the gathering in of connotations; the harvesting of them, like blackberries in a good season, ripe and heavy, snatched from among the thorns of logic. Fay Weldon thorns gathering writing There is no real escape from autobiography into biography. The self has to be faced, or we die. Fay Weldon biographies real self No one should be allowed to give back the gift of life, unless they are very old and full of tears, when the body outlives the spirit, when they should be allowed to join the others who've already gone. Fay Weldon tears gone giving Be bold, but not too bold. Have courage, but not too much. Fay Weldon have-courage boldness too-much Food is the supremest of pleasures. Fay Weldon pleasure Take me! Well, not quite take me, love me now, take me eventually Fay Weldon take-me wells I am an ordinary person, but carried to extremes. Fay Weldon ordinary-person extremes ordinary The desire for self-expression afflicts people when they feel there is something of themselves which is not getting through to the outside world. Fay Weldon expression self people Widows tend either to fade away when husbands die, committing emotional suttee, or else find that a new life burgeons. Here in Christchurch, a lot of burgeoning goes on. Fay Weldon emotional husband new-life