Spend more time in daily reflection, contemplation and meditation. Had I done that at 20, things would have been very different in my life. But things really were as they needed to be, because I had to learn ... how important it was. Iyanla Vanzant More Quotes by Iyanla Vanzant More Quotes From Iyanla Vanzant If it's not your story to tell, you don't tell it. Iyanla Vanzant ifs stories Why do we hold onto negativity? For some reason, we believe that others are affected by our experience of remaining upset, hurt or angry. Holding on to pain, anger, guilt or shame is the glue that binds us to the situation we want to escape. Iyanla Vanzant pain hurt believe When we believe we are losing control, we grab on tight. When our greatest fear comes upon us, we clench our fist and teeth, close our eyes and hold on. We must learn how to let go. When the time comes for growth and change, we must have the courage and faith to let go. Whatever leaves my life makes room for something better. Iyanla Vanzant eye letting-go believe Education does not take place when you learn something you did not know before. Education is your ability to use what you have learned to be better today than you were yesterday. Iyanla Vanzant use yesterday doe When there is breakdown in a relationship, you must have the hard conversation. It may not be pretty and it may not feel good. But if you are willing to listen and tell the truth, it will open Iyanla Vanzant feel-good telling-the-truth may I am not seeking anything but service to my creator. I do not need a house, I do not need a car, I do not need any of that, but to be present with each guest that sits across from me, and I am committed to a bigger thing than me, which is the vision of own, because own is going to outlive all of us. Iyanla Vanzant car vision house There are times when we do not recognize that it is time for us to move forward. When life is ready for us to move and we resist, life will move us by any means necessary. What may feel like a disaster is actually a graduation. Remain open to being guided, supported and protected by the universe. Iyanla Vanzant may mean moving When you can look a thing dead in the eye, acknowledge that it exists, call it exactly what it is, and decide what role it will take in your life then, my Beloved, you have taken the first step toward your freedom. Iyanla Vanzant freedom eye taken We must each learn to feel comfortable in our own uniqueness by rising above the fear of being wrong and the aversion to being different. Iyanla Vanzant being-different aversion rising The rules of the game of life are quite simple. Always tell the truth. Never live in fear of anything or anyone. Be conscious of what you are thinking so you can always think positively. Do everything that you do for the love of doing it. If you devote yourself, your time and your energy to following these rules, have no doubt - you cannot lose! Iyanla Vanzant simple games thinking The goal of life is not to win. It is to play the game with love. The rules of the game are: have a strong desire to win, believe that you are worthy of winning, have faith that you will win, and, as long as you are alive, never believe that the game is over. Iyanla Vanzant strong winning believe Never underestimate the ruthlessness of the ego to keep you in a state of suffering in which you voluntarily participate. Iyanla Vanzant ruthlessness ego suffering Spirituality is not about what you know. It is about growing, deepening, evolving and becoming a living reflection of your spiritual identity. Iyanla Vanzant identity reflection spiritual Be willing to share all of who you are. So many of us want a partner, but we're not willing to show all of us. That's why we have a weave, we're wearing Spanx and everything is 'fine.' If you're not willing to let your partner see your cellulite or know your biggest fears, then you aren't really ready to share yourself. Iyanla Vanzant partners share want We're all in prison. All of us are in prison, but some of us have a key. Iyanla Vanzant prison keys When you find yourself in a new situation, everything that requires healing is going to rush to the surface. Iyanla Vanzant finding-yourself surface healing Joy is what we are, not what we must get. Joy is the realization that all we want or need in life has been etched into our souls. Joy helps us see not what we are "going through," but what we are "growing to"-a greater sense of understanding, accomplishment, and enlightenment. Joy reveals to us the calm at the end of the storm, the peace that surpasses the momentary happiness of pleasure. If we keep our minds centered on joy, joy becomes a state of mind. Iyanla Vanzant accomplishment understanding joy Prayer is asking for rain. Faith is carrying an umbrella. Faith is the inner sense of knowing that with divine order working on your side, all things will come together for your good. Faith is knowing that there is a divine plan and purpose for everything in life Iyanla Vanzant divine-order prayer rain Stay in your car in your lane on your road in your world. Stay in your own lane. Don't be minding other people's spiritual business. Stay in your car. In your lane. On your road. In your world. Iyanla Vanzant car spiritual people Learning to trust yourself and what you know takes time and work. You cannot expect to eradicate a lifetime of misguided information overnight. You must make a continuous, conscious effort to get on good terms with you. Iyanla Vanzant trust-yourself effort information
