Study after study shows that people are much less likely to lie to a person they consider to be honest. Pamela Meyer More Quotes by Pamela Meyer More Quotes From Pamela Meyer Tales of cheating on school and college tests are rife. There have been instances where teachers have given students test answers in order to make themselves look good on their performance reviews. Mentors who should be teaching the opposite are sending a message that lying and cheating are acceptable. Pamela Meyer good look cheating school Lying is a cooperative act. Think about it. A lie has no power whatsoever by its mere utterance. Its power emerges when someone else agrees to believe the lie. Pamela Meyer lie think power believe High-stakes lying is out of control. And it's costing us big bucks in one way or another. It's not simply a matter of quantifying losses in dollars. It's costing us emotionally and psychologically as well. Pamela Meyer control big matter way A liar often smiles subtly while telling a lie; it's an unconscious expression of his delight in getting away with a whopper. Pamela Meyer liar smiles lie expression Deception can cost billions. Think Enron, Madoff, the mortgage crisis. Or in the case of double agents and traitors, like Robert Hanssen or Aldrich Ames, lies can betray our country. They can compromise our security. They can undermine democracy. They can cause the deaths of those that defend us. Pamela Meyer think democracy compromise country Con men look for human frailty to exploit. This is most often greed. Trump found a different vice: anger. The emotional are always the most susceptible to manipulation. Pamela Meyer look greed anger men As someone who specializes in deception, I'll tell you this much: When someone insistently implores, 'Believe me,' don't. Pleading 'believe me' or 'trust me' - insisting to people that you are telling the truth - is a tell-tale sign that you probably aren't. Pamela Meyer me you trust truth White lies keep social dignity intact and are far more prevalent than most people realize. Several studies have found that an average person is lied to from 10 to 200 times a day - mostly just to keep a conversation going, to avoid conflict, or to establish a connection with someone. Pamela Meyer day conflict white people By the time we enter this work world and we're breadwinners, we enter a world that's just cluttered with spam, fake, digital friends, partisan media, ingenious identity thieves, world-class Ponzi schemers - a deception epidemic. Pamela Meyer friends work time world For the liespotter who knows how to listen well, the random words, sounds, and phrases in a person's speech are never as random as they seem. They offer a clear sightline into the liar's psyche. Pamela Meyer liar random words never A narcissist like Trump must constantly inflate and exaggerate in order to keep the supply trains running. He has to brag about how, 'I have a very high IQ' or concoct stories about people agreeing with him. Pamela Meyer high how like people Contempt is the only asymmetrical expression in the muscular facial system: Disgust, fear, happiness, surprise and anger typically express themselves symmetrically. Contempt is marked by one lip corner pulled up and in a dismissive sneer. Pamela Meyer surprise anger fear happiness Liars do look you in the eye. They do not always stutter, stammer, blush or fidget. Pamela Meyer look you always eye Business is a battlefield. You need to be able to go to battle with your team members. Like the military. Know them, trust them, and know who you're working with. Pamela Meyer you trust team business Studies by several different researchers have shown that the number of lies we're told each day is anywhere from 20 - 200. To many, that will seem shockingly high. Yet it isn't, in light of humans being ill-suited to detect lies. The average human can detect a lie only 54% of the time. Pamela Meyer lie day light time One-year-olds learn concealment. Five-year-olds lie outright: they manipulate via flattery. Nine-year-olds - masters of the cover-up. By the time you enter college, you're going to lie to your mom in one out of every five interactions. Pamela Meyer lie you mom time A good lie detector doesn't jump to conclusions but tries to understand the person across the table, her personality, and her motivations. Your goal as a lie spotter isn't to point the finger and say, 'You're lying' - your goal is to get to the truth. Pamela Meyer good you personality truth One immutable trait of the gullible is that they are credulous to a fault. Though no-doubt well-meaning, the naive are Trump's base. Pamela Meyer base though fault naive Nothing is certain in life but death and taxes. And in Donald Trump's case, lies. Pamela Meyer death-and-taxes nothing life death Lying in the political sphere has gotten out of hand, and because people tend to dismiss things that challenge their preconceived notions of the world, fact checkers can only play a small part in remedying the problem. Pamela Meyer challenge problem people world
