Tell me what you fear and I will tell you what has happened to you. Donald Woods Winnicott More Quotes by Donald Woods Winnicott More Quotes From Donald Woods Winnicott The mother gazes at the baby in her arms, and the baby gazes at his mother's face and finds himself therein... provided that the mother is really looking at the unique, small, helpless being and not projecting her own expectations, fears, and plans for the child. In that case, the child would find not himself in his mother's face, but rather the mother's own projections. This child would remain without a mirror, and for the rest of his life would be seeking this mirror in vain. Donald Woods Winnicott motherbabychildren It is in playing and only in playing that the individual child or adult is able to be creative and to use the whole personality, and it is only in being creative that the individual discovers the self. Donald Woods Winnicott playing-gamesselfchildren It is a joy to be hidden, and disaster not to be found. Donald Woods Winnicott disasterfoundjoy There is no such thing as a baby, there is a baby and someone. Donald Woods Winnicott baby I would rather be the child of a mother who has all the inner conflicts of the human being than be mothered by someone for whom all is easy and smooth, who knows all the answers, and is a stranger to doubt. Donald Woods Winnicott doubtmotherchildren What is a normal child like? Does he just eat and grow and smile sweetly? No, that is not what he is like. The normal child, if he has confidence in mother and father, pulls out all the stops. In the course of time, he tries out his power to disrupt, to destroy, to frighten, to wear down, to waste, to wangle, and to appropriate . . . At the start he absolutely needs to live in a circle of love and strength (with consequent tolerance) if he is not to be too fearful of his own thoughts and of his imaginings to make progress in his emotional development. Donald Woods Winnicott motherfatherchildren Artists are people driven by the tension between the desire to communicate and the desire to hide. Donald Woods Winnicott musicwritingart Feeling real is more than existing; it is finding a way to exist as oneself... and to have a self into which to retreat for relaxation. Donald Woods Winnicott realselffeelings The fact that grief takes so long to resolve is not a sign of inadequacy, but betokens depth of soul. Donald Woods Winnicott griefsoullong Creativity consists in maintaining a key aspect of the experience of childhood throughout one's life: the capacity to create and recreate the world. Creativity is the omnipotence of the child's mind. Donald Woods Winnicott creativitykeyschildren If mothers are told to do this or that or the other,... they lose touch with their own ability to act.... Only too easily they feel incompetent. If they must look up everything in a book, they are always too late even when they do the right things, because the right things have to be done immediately. It is only possible to act at exactly the right point when the action is intuitive or by instinct, as we say. The mind can be brought to bear on the problem afterwards. Donald Woods Winnicott mothermindbook The precursor of the mirror is the mother's face. Donald Woods Winnicott familymommother The capacity to still feel wonder is essential to the creative process. Donald Woods Winnicott essentialscreativewonder It is in playing, and perhaps only in playing, that the child is free to be creative. Donald Woods Winnicott creativeplaychildren However, it can't be helped; mothers, if they do their job properly, are the representatives of the hard, demanding world and it is they who gradually introduce reality which is so often the enemy of impulse. There is anger with mother and hatred is somewhere even when there is absolutely no doubt of love that is mixed with adoration. Donald Woods Winnicott motherjobsreality It's only too easy to idealise a mother's job. We know well that every job has its frustrations and its boring routines and its times of being the last thing anyone would choose to do. Well, why shouldn't the care of babies and children be thought of that way too? Donald Woods Winnicott motherbabyjobs We fight to exist. Personally, I am not ashamed of fighting to exist. We are doing no very extraordinary thing to fight simply because we do not wish to be enslaved or exterminated. Donald Woods Winnicott fightingwishhistory It's a poor thing to be sane! Donald Woods Winnicott poorsane I don't mind saying in advance that in my opinion jealousy is normal and healthy. Jealousy arises out of the fact that children love. If they have no capacity to love, then they don't show jealousy. Donald Woods Winnicott capacity-to-lovehealthychildren Play like dreams serves the function of self realization. Donald Woods Winnicott selfdreamphilosophy
