The one who chooses to love will find appropriate ways to express that decision everyday. Gary Chapman More Quotes by Gary Chapman More Quotes From Gary Chapman I thought the whole thing was you fall in love with somebody, and it's so wonderful, and it's so euphoric, and it's going to be that way forever. Nobody told me that two years after you fall in love, you're going to come down off the euphoria. Gary Chapman nobody me you love You need to listen to your friends when they point out things about the person you're in love with. Listen to them, because they see what you can't see right now, but you'll see it later. Gary Chapman see you friends love I wish I'd known that apologizing is a sign of strength. I had the impression that if you apologize, it's a sign of weakness. I kind of picked up the message from my father, 'Real men don't apologize. You just do your best, and if you happen to hurt some people, that's their fault. You just go on. Don't apologize. That's a sign of weakness.' Gary Chapman best strength men father It is universal to give gifts as an expression of love. My academic background is anthropology, the study of cultures. We have never discovered a culture where gift-giving is not an expression of love. Gary Chapman never study love culture Typically, we get annoyed when our spouses complain. We get defensive. But, really, when your spouse complains, he or she is giving you wonderful information about what would make him or her feel loved. Gary Chapman loved feel you information Love is a spiritual grace. We learn it from God. Gary Chapman spiritual god love-is love Years and years ago, I said I did not want to write academic books. I want to write books that are in the language of the common person so that Joe, who didn't even go to college, can sit down and read my book and get it and apply it to his life. Gary Chapman down language life book If we can develop the character and work with God, then let him develop the character of Christ in us, we're going to become the best possible husband, the best possible wife. Gary Chapman best wife god work One of the things I say is, 'You cannot control your spouse, but you can influence your spouse.' And one of the ways to influence your spouse is to make sure you are meeting their need for love. Gary Chapman control you influence love People need to know their marriage is worth fighting for. Gary Chapman know marriage fighting people I remember, in the early days of my marriage, I thought I married the wrong person. We held to our own ideas of what the other should be and do, but neither of us lived up to those expectations. Gary Chapman thought marriage remember ideas
