The only way to find your self is to first lose yourself. Lose yourself to all worldly affairs, immerse yourself in the deepest oceans of material world - until the special moment of awakening, a pre-destined call that everyone receives at some stage in life. From that moment onwards, onsets the process of self-realization and your journey on the path to illumination. And thus you find your self, only after losing yourself in the jungle of materialistic world.