The only way you can make a marriage work is as free, independent people. It needs to be based on the good feelings that you have for each other, not on need. Alexander Lowen More Quotes by Alexander Lowen More Quotes From Alexander Lowen A person who doesn't breathe deeply reduces the life of his body. If he doesn't move freely, he restricts the life of his body. If he doesn't feel fully, he narrows the life of his body. And if his self-expression is constricted, he limits the life of his body. Alexander Lowen freedom life moving Without awareness of bodily feeling and attitude, a person becomes split into a disembodied spirit and a disenchanted body. Alexander Lowen body feelings attitude Sexuality is not a leisure or part-time activity. It is a way of being. Alexander Lowen physicians sex way As one grows older, the sense of separateness is slowly reduced. Old people do not live on an ego level. Their concerns are not about their individuality but about the river of life, the family, the community, the nation, people, animals, nature, life. They can die easily if they are assured that life will continue positively, for they feel part of the river again, and soon they will be part of the ocean. When they are very old, they no longer belong to our time and space, but to all time and all space. Alexander Lowen ocean space animal Faith is a quality of being: of being in touch with oneself, with life, and with the universe. It is a sense of belonging to one's community, to one's country and to the earth. Above all it is a feeling of being grounded in one's body, in one's humanity, and in one's animal nature. It can be all of these things because it is a manifestation of life, an expression of the living force that unites all beings. It is a biological phenomenon and not a psychic creation. Alexander Lowen faith animal country While the repression of a memory is a psychological process, the suppression of feeling is accomplished by deadening a part of the body or reducing its motility so that feeling is diminished. The repression of the memory is dependent upon and related to the suppression of feeling, for as long as the feeling persists, the memory remains vivid. Suppression entails the development of chronic muscular tension in those areas of the body where the feeling would be experienced. In the case of sexual feeling, this tension is found in and about the abdomen and pelvis Alexander Lowen feelings memories long We live in an ocean of air like fish in a body of water. By our breathing we are attuned to our atmosphere. If we inhibit our breathing we isolate ourselves from the medium in which we exist. In all Oriental and mystic philosophies, the breath holds the secret to the highest bliss. Alexander Lowen ocean air philosophy Unfortunately, most people do not stop to feel their tiredness. Faced with the pressures of life, they believe that it is a matter of survival to go on as they have been. Feeling tired raises a deep fear that they may not be able to continue the struggle. Many find it difficult to say, ‘I can’t.’ As children, they were taught that where there’s a will, there’s a way. To say, ‘I can’t,’ is to admit failure, which is seen as evidence that they are unworthy of love. Alexander Lowen struggle believe children Love is the feeling that emanates from the heart and extends through the blood to every cell of the body. Alexander Lowen cells heart love If the ego is inflated it must be gradually deflated. Alexander Lowen ego ifs Despair is the only cure for illusion. Alexander Lowen illusion cures despair Spirit is not a mystic concept. The spirit of a person is manifest in her aliveness, brightness of his eyes, in the resonance of her voice and in the ease and gracefulness of his movements. These qualities are related to and stem from a high level of energy in the body... Sensing the harmony between the internal pulsation of our body and that in the universe, we feel identified with the universal, with God. We are like tuning forks vibrating at the same pitch Alexander Lowen quality voice eye Mature love is not a surrender of the self but a surrender to the self. The ego surrenders its hegemony of the personality to the heart, but in this surrender it is not annihilated. Rather it is strengthened because its roots in the body are nourished by the joy that the body feels. Alexander Lowen roots heart love-is Because we are afraid of life, we seek to control or master it. Alexander Lowen afraid-of-life masters It is only by making the past alive again for a person that a true growth in the present is facilitated. If the past is cut off, the future does not exist. Alexander Lowen growth cutting past The primary nature of every human being is to be open to life and love. Being guarded, armoured, distrustful and enclosed is second nature in our culture. It is the means we adopt to protect ourselves against being hurt, but when such attitudes become characterological or structured in the personality, they constitute a more severe hurt and create a greater crippling than the one originally suffered. Alexander Lowen life-and-love hurt attitude Change is possible, but it must start with self-acceptance. Alexander Lowen compassion acceptance self The feeling of love is a rich feeling, but the expression of love in word or deed is a joy. Alexander Lowen expression joy love-is Bioenergetics is an adventure in self-discovery. It differs from similar explorations into the nature of the self by attempting to understand the human personality in terms of the human body. Most previous explorations focused their investigations on the mind. Alexander Lowen self discovery adventure Crying, that is, sobbing is the earliest and deepest way to release tension. Infants can cry almost from the moment of birth, and do so easily following every stress that produces a state of tension in the body... Human beings are the only creatures who can react in this way to stress and tension. Most probably, they are the only ones who need this form of release. Alexander Lowen stress body needs
