The option of a quiet wedding was presumably open to Meghan Markles and Harry and they instead have chosen one that invites enormous publicity and indeed their office is orchestrating the publicity, so it is difficult for the watching public to switch from what is universal consumption to what is, in Harry’s words, now a ‘ private matter. ’ there is a natural and not always wise desire on the part of royal people to control everything we know about them, and this is not a healthy attitude nor is it a pragmatic one given the degree to which the media can promote their causes.