The pain is there; when you close one door on it, it knocks to come in somewhere else. Irvin D. Yalom More Quotes by Irvin D. Yalom More Quotes From Irvin D. Yalom ... sooner or later she had to give up the hope for a better past. Irvin D. Yalom giving-up giving past If one is to love oneself one must behave in ways that one can admire. Irvin D. Yalom behave admire way I think my quarry is illusion. I war against magic. I believe that, though illusion often cheers and comforts, it ultimately and invariably weakens and constricts the spirit. Irvin D. Yalom cheer war believe The spirit of a man is constructed out of his choices. Irvin D. Yalom choices spirit men What? 'Borderline patients play games'? That what you said? Ernest, you'll never be a real therapist if you think like that. That's exactly what I meant earlier when I talked about the dangers of diagnosis. There are borderlines and there are borderlines. Labels do violence to people. You can't treat the label; you have to treat the person behind the label. (17) Irvin D. Yalom real games thinking Life is a miserable thing. I have decided to spend my life thinking about it. Irvin D. Yalom miserable life-is thinking Never take away anything if you have nothing better to offer Irvin D. Yalom offers ifs Perhaps the single most important therapeutic credo that I have is that the unexamined life is not worth living. Irvin D. Yalom therapeutic important life Mature love is loving, not being loved. Irvin D. Yalom mature-love mature love-is ...the more unlived your life, the greater your death anxiety. The more you fail to experience your life fully, the more you will fear death. Irvin D. Yalom anxiety failing fear-of-death To care of another individual means to know and to experience the other as fully as possible. Irvin D. Yalom individual care mean Not to take possession of your life plan is to let your existence be an accident. Irvin D. Yalom existence plans possession The death anxiety of many people is fueled ... by disappointment at never having fulfilled their potential. Many people are in despair because their dreams didn't come true, and they despair even more that they did not make them come true. A focus on this deep dissatisfaction is often the starting point in overcoming death anxiety. Irvin D. Yalom disappointment dream people Does a being who requires meaning find meaning in a universe that has no meaning? Irvin D. Yalom find-me universe doe Marriage and its entourage of possession and jealousy enslave the spirit. Irvin D. Yalom entourage marriage spirit A curious thought experiment. . . Nietzsche's message to us was to live life in such a way that we would be willing to repeat the same life eternally Irvin D. Yalom live-life would-be way I dream of a love that is more than two people craving to possess one another. Irvin D. Yalom dream two people One reason patients are reluctant to work in a therapy group is they fear that things will go too far, that the powerful therapist or the collective group might coerce them to lose control--to say or think or feel things that will be catastrophic. The therapist can make the group feel safer by allowing each patient to set his or her limits and by emphasizing the patient's control over every interaction. Irvin D. Yalom powerful might thinking Look out the other’s window. Try to see the world as your patient sees it. Irvin D. Yalom trying looks world Though the physicality of death destroys us, the idea of death may save us. Irvin D. Yalom physicality may ideas
