The person most in control is the person who can give up control. Frederick Salomon Perls More Quotes by Frederick Salomon Perls More Quotes From Frederick Salomon Perls I do my thing and you do your thing. I am not in this world to live up to your expectations, And you are not in this world to live up to mine. You are you, and I am I, and if by chance we find each other, it's beautiful. If not, it can't be helped. Frederick Salomon Perls expectations beautiful world Lose your mind and come to your senses. Frederick Salomon Perls medicine inspirational philosophy We live in a house of mirrors and think we are looking out the windows. Frederick Salomon Perls mirrors house thinking Learning is to discover that something is possible. We are using most of our energies for self-destructiv e games, self-preventing games. We prevent ourselves from growing the very moment something unpleasant, something painful comes up. At that moment we become phobic, we run away, we desensitize ourselves. Neurotic suffering is suffering in imagination, suffering in fantasy. Frederick Salomon Perls self games running ...nobody can stand truth if it is told to him. Truth can be tolerated only if you discover it yourself because then, the pride of discovery makes the truth palatable. Frederick Salomon Perls gestalt pride discovery Those that fight don't listen, those that listen don't fight. Frederick Salomon Perls fighting Awareness in itself is healing. Frederick Salomon Perls awareness healing Anxiety is the gap between now and later. Frederick Salomon Perls fearless anxiety relax Our dependency makes slaves out of us, especially if this dependency is a dependency of our self-esteem. If you need encouragement, praise, pats on the back from everybody, then you make everybody your judge. Frederick Salomon Perls encouragement self-esteem judging If you are bored, you are not paying attention. Frederick Salomon Perls pay-attention bored attention To mature means to take responsibility for your life, to be on your own. Psychoanalysis fosters the infantile state by considering that the past is responsible for the illness. Frederick Salomon Perls responsibility mean past As Albert Einstein once said to me: "Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity." But what is much more widespread than the actual stupidity is the playing stupid, turning off your ear, not listening, not seeing. Frederick Salomon Perls stupid listening two There's always a possibility of richer maturation - of taking more and more responsibility for yourself and for your life...And this is what I hope...to make you understand how much you gain by taking re-sponsibility for every emotion, every movement you make, every thought you have...We touch each other by honestly being what we are, not intentionally making contact. Frederick Salomon Perls gains movement responsibility Nothing changes until it becomes what it is. Frederick Salomon Perls things-change I am not in this world to live up to other people's expectations, nor do I feel that the world must live up to mine. Frederick Salomon Perls positivity motivational life If you take responsibility for what you are doing to yourself, how you produce your symptoms, how you produce your illness, how you produce your existence-the very moment you get in touch with yourself-growth begins, integration begins. Frederick Salomon Perls conformity growth responsibility Teaching means to show a person that something is possible. Frederick Salomon Perls teaching shows mean Fear is excitement without the breath. Frederick Salomon Perls breathing energy fear You cannot achieve happiness. Happiness happens and is a transitory stage. Imagine how happy I felt when I got relief from bladder pressure. How long did that happiness last? Frederick Salomon Perls relief happiness long I have one aim only: to impart a fraction of the meaning of the word now. Frederick Salomon Perls impart aim fractions