The problem is that America is still so racist - I guess it's hard to find another word for it - that they still, the press in general and many people, perceive only white women as feminists. They think black women are black. Gloria Steinem More Quotes by Gloria Steinem More Quotes From Gloria Steinem This idea of doing it all is the enemy of equality, not the path to do it. It's impossible to do two full-time jobs, and an impossible definition of success is just another way of making women feel like failures... Any definition of success has to include social policies that honor families and men who raise babies as much as women do. Gloria Steinem baby jobs men I wouldn't want to generalize, but we still do live in a society that's sexist and racist and addicted to class and has the ridiculous idea that if you have money you're smarter, which Donald Trump by himself should be able to disprove. Gloria Steinem racist class ideas ... patriarchy creates megapatterns that affect us all--even as we forge different individual choices within them--just as do themegapatterns of nationalism or racism. Gloria Steinem individual-choice choices racism For a man to say, "I have to leave work now because I need to do something with my kids," it's sometimes viewed as a career killer. He doesn't have the right drive. So when they depart from their gender roles, they face some of the same restrictions. Gloria Steinem careers men kids [On the Internet and activism:] The danger of the Internet is cocooning with the like-minded online - of sending an email or twitter and confusing that with action - while the real corporate and military and government centers of power go right on. In a way, the highest purpose of the Internet is to bring us together for empathy and action. After all, the reflector cells and empathy-producing chemicals in our brains only work when we're physically together with all five senses. You can't raise a baby online. Gloria Steinem real military baby Children who have been very sadistically abused over the long-term are able to dissociate, some of them are able to dissociate as a way of surviving and inventing someone to whom this doesn't happen. And so therefore, they invent within themselves different personalities who have life histories of their own. Many people invent an opposite gender personality as well. Gloria Steinem opposites long children This is what forty looks like. We've been lying so long, who would know? Gloria Steinem long lying looks I don't know if fury can compete with necessity as the mother of invention, but I recommend it. Gloria Steinem invention anger mother I no longer believe the conservative message that children are naturally selfish and destructive creatures who need civilizing by hierarchies or painful controls. On the contrary, I believe that hierarchy and painful controls create destructive people. And I no longer believe the liberal message that children are blank slates on which society can write anything. On the contrary, I believe a unique core self is born into every human being; the result of millennia of environment and heredity combined in an unpredictable way that could never happen before or again. Gloria Steinem selfish family children We need to stop raising boys to think that they need to prove their masculinity by being controlling or by not showing emotion or by not being little girls. Gloria Steinem girl boys thinking It used to be said that this country was a child-centered one. Nothing could be further from the truth. Children have been our lowest priority, both in economic and emotional spending. Gloria Steinem emotional country children you never know which thing you do is going to turn out to be important. I'm sure we've all done very small things that had very great impact and very big things that didn't make any difference. So, create the means that best reflect the ends we want. Try to make each moment authentic, and you'll get to an authentic end. Gloria Steinem impact differences mean The first problem for all of us, men and woman, is not to learn, but to unlearn. We are filled with the popular wisdom of several centuries just past, and we are terrified to give it up. Patriotism means obedience, age means wisdom, woman means submission, black means inferior: these are preconceptions imbedded so deeply in our thinking that we honestly may not know that they are there. Gloria Steinem learning change mean I think that there is clearly an understanding that the women's market is an important market. It's still often perceived as separate when it's not. Gloria Steinem understanding important thinking All biographers, no matter how sympathetic, end up using their subjects as mirrors to figure themselves out. I don't want to be anyone's mirror. Gloria Steinem mirrors matter want change starts at the bottom. I think we're disempowered by the idea that it starts at the top, when really change is like a tree. It does start at the bottom. Gloria Steinem change ideas thinking Nothing will happen automatically. Change depends on what you and I do every day. Gloria Steinem depends change happens when pain has been intertwined with love and closeness, it's very difficult to believe that love and closeness can be experienced without pain. Gloria Steinem abuse pain believe The problem with Superwoman is that she has to do it all, inside the home and outside the home. If there is a man there doing half of it, that's a different world. Gloria Steinem different home men The definition of woman's work is shitwork. Gloria Steinem definitions work
