The spiritual quest is not some added benefit to our life, something you embark on if you have the time and inclination. We are spiritual beings on an earthly journey. Our spirituality makes up our beingness. John Bradshaw More Quotes by John Bradshaw More Quotes From John Bradshaw To be shame-bound means that whenever you feel any feeling, need or drive, you immediately feel ashamed. The dynamic core of your human life is grounded in your feelings, needs and drives. When these are bound by shame, you are shamed to the core. John Bradshaw feelings mean needs Since the earliest period of our life was preverbal, everything depended on emotional interaction. Without someone to reflect our emotions, we had no way of knowing who we were. John Bradshaw emotional knowing way Our beliefs create the kind of world we believe in. We project our feelings, thoughts and attitudes onto the world. I can create a different world by changing my belief about the world. Our inner state creates the outer and not vice versa. John Bradshaw feelings attitude believe Growing up means leaving home and becoming a self supporting adult. I think this the hardest task any human being hast to face. John Bradshaw growing-up self-esteem home Most people who have survived abuse have great strength. John Bradshaw survived abuse people I know from my own clinical work that when people are beaten and hurt, they numb out so that they cant feel anymore. John Bradshaw numb hurt people We move from the illusion of certainty, to the certainty of illusion John Bradshaw illusion inspirational moving That's the trouble with the conventional doctors. They always say, 'How does it work?' but often there isn't any neat little answer...Something simply works...We don't really know how it works. We say we do. We know one or two things we can see and measure. John Bradshaw doctors dark two Virtue is an inner strength. It expands your nature. John Bradshaw inner-strength virtue The most paradoxical aspect of neurotic shame is that it is the core motivator of the superachieved and the underachieved, the star and the scapegoat, the righteous and the wretched, the powerful and the pathetic. John Bradshaw shame powerful stars I define a good person as somebody who is fully conscious of their own limitations. They know their strengths, but they also know their shadow - they know their weaknesses. In other words, they understand that there is no good without bad. Good and evil are really one, but we have broken them up in our consciousness. We polarize them. John Bradshaw shadow broken evil The feeling of righteousness is the core mood alteration among religious addicts. Religious addiction is a massive problem in our society. It may be the most pernicious of all addictions because it’s so hard for a person to break his delusion and denial. How can anything be wrong with loving God and giving your life for good works and service to mankind? John Bradshaw loving-life religious giving Evil is a source of moral intelligence in the sense that we need to learn from our shadow, from our dark side, in order to be good. John Bradshaw evil dark order The foundation for our self-image is grounded in the first three years of life. It comes from our major caretaker's mirroring. John Bradshaw foundation self-esteem years Ego is to the true self what a flashlight is to a spotlight. John Bradshaw spotlight ego self Healthy shame is an emotion that teaches us about our limits. Like all emotions, shame moves us to get our basic needs met. John Bradshaw healthy moving needs Condemning others as bad or sinful is a way to feel righteous. Such a feeling is a powerful mood alteration and can become highly addictive. John Bradshaw powerful feelings way Children need parents who model self-discipline rather than preach it. They learn from what their parents are actually willing to do; not from what they say they do. John Bradshaw discipline self children Chronically dysfunctioning families are also delusional. Delusion is sincere denial. John Bradshaw denial delusional sincere Science has so far been unable to tell us how self-aware dogs are, much less whether they have anything like our conscious thoughts. This is not surprising, since neither scientists nor philosophers can agree about what the consciousness of humans consists of, let alone that of animals. John Bradshaw self dog animal
