There's a kind of intimacy that happens between a mother and an only child. Which only gets more intimate when it's between a mother and only daughter. Leigh Newman More Quotes by Leigh Newman More Quotes From Leigh Newman Resisting and avoiding pain sucks energy-and time. The more you let yourself feel those minute-and-a-half hells, the quicker you'll start feeling those minute-and-a-half happinesses. Leigh Newman painenergyfeelings The most reliable path to glory is base brute effort. Leigh Newman effortglorypath While you can't keep your heart from getting broken, you can stop breaking your own heart...once you realize the difference between what you can control and what you can't, and that it's far, far more fun to lavish all that attention on your own self-worth. Leigh Newman self-worthheartfun If you want to write in a mature and interesting way, you have to have sympathy for everyone that's involved. Leigh Newman maturewritinginteresting Most dreams are also part reality (otherwise we wouldn’t believe them), and reality happens to be a condition that gives you plenty of chances through your life to rise to - no, soar through - the occasion. Leigh Newman dreambelievereality There are still things out there in the universe to contemplate and spend our lives chasing. Leigh Newman contemplatingchasingstills How do you stop longing for what you absolutely know you can't get? Which really means: How do you absolutely know you can't-and won't-get it, not ever? How do you pinch out that wisp of feeble, ruthless hope? Leigh Newman wispslongingmean I didn't write the memoir with any sort of intention of feeling better. I wrote the memoir because I had a weird need to write a good story. But once I was done, I did feel better about myself. Not better, just calmer. Because a tremendous onus had been lifted off my day-to-day. Leigh Newman feel-betterfeelingswriting Penning an advice column for the literary website The Rumpus, [Strayed] worked anonymously, using the pen name Sugar, replying to letters from readings suffering everything from loveless marriages to abusive, drug-addicted brothers to disfiguring illnesses. The result: intimate, in-depth essays that not only took the letter writer's life into account but also Strayed's. Collected in a book, they make for riveting, emotionally charged reading (translation: be prepared to bawl) that leaves you significantly wiser for the experience. . . . Moving. . . . compassionate. Leigh Newman brotherbookmoving I've managed to create intimacy with people I know, and people that I don't know. The longer things stay inside of us, the more we think they are black or tainted, but they're really not. Leigh Newman blackpeoplethinking The reason I could fit in with so many different kinds of people was that I had no self. And then the problem is, if you don't have a self, how can you be with other people? Who the hell are you with them? Leigh Newman differentselfpeople I turned what was a wonderful case of self-reliance into a case of self-exile. Which is not uncommon, I think, in people who grow really early and have to learn how to take care of themselves. They have trouble hinging their lives with anybody else. Leigh Newman selfpeoplethinking I'm pretty much of the Shakespearean school. Dialogue is character. How we speak is who we are. Leigh Newman who-we-arecharacterschool My mom was a social worker. I had a pretty good idea of what the authorities can do when a parent's not around. Leigh Newman parentmomideas I was an only child. And it's very much my temperament. I remember playing with a piece of string in my room for hours. I had never thought about what it would be like to have siblings. Leigh Newman only-childsiblingchildren I don't think many kids question their surroundings. Everything seems so permanent and inevitable growing up, even chaos. Leigh Newman growing-upkidsthinking After my parents divorced, my father remarried and my brothers were born when I was twelve and sixteen. I was thunderstruck at these kids. The "baby-ness" of them. Their toes. I had never been around babies before. Leigh Newman brotherbabyfather Often, I think that my brothers were the reason I didn't do something really stupid in my teenage years; I didn't want to disappoint them. Even though was I was pretty committed to disappointing everybody else. Leigh Newman teenagebrotherstupid Even as my family fell apart and things were at their most hopeless, my dad and I found a lot of happiness in the wilderness - sleeping on the cold gravel and killing as many things as we could get our hands on. Even as my mom got progressively more crazy, we found a happiness, in flashes. Leigh Newman dadcrazymom There was always some germ of joy, some little paramecium of happiness wriggling around, waiting for a chance to get out. Leigh Newman waitinglittlesjoy
