There's something almost perfect in the ugly duckling syndrome. Because a sensitivity is tattooed on a part of you no one else can see but can somehow guess is there. Stephanie Klein More Quotes by Stephanie Klein More Quotes From Stephanie Klein If someone wants to lead a double life, they will find a way to do it. And they can promise you things until your nerves unfold and you can finally put up your feet. But it can all be a lie. There are no guarantees, even when people mean what they say at the time. People change their minds. People die. And the hurt is as real as a baseball bat. Stephanie Klein realbaseballhurt What we wait around a lifetime for with one person, we can find in a moment with someone else. Stephanie Klein divorcewaitingrelationship Stop caring what other people think. How? Understand that this is your life, not theirs, and you'll have no one to blame but yourself if things don't work out the way you'd hoped...their opinion shouldn't matter more than your own. Stephanie Klein caringpeoplethinking Don't be so damn hard on yourself. Yeah, you screwed up. You're not perfect, fine. Learn from it. But don't punish yourself. Be kind to you, even when you screw up. You'll bounce back eventually. You'll make up for it. Stephanie Klein be-kindscrew-upsperfect When we die, no one remembers us for what we weighed. Our weight isn't etched into our headstones. Stephanie Klein headstoneweightremember Women in our generation, we were taught we can be and do anything as long as we work hard. But you can't work hard enough for two people. Stephanie Klein our-generationhard-worktwo With relationships, I always had a reason why some time in the future would be better for me than it was that day. When I was fat, I thought I'd feel pretty when I was thin, and when I was thin, I thought I'd be happier if I was more toned and muscular and had more money to look more coordinated. I wasn't comfortable in my own skin unless there was a man there to tell me just how radiant that skin looked. I was a victim of low self-esteem and had the Soon syndrome bad. I was running toward a brighter future, unaware of the mirages I'd created in the distance. Stephanie Klein distanceself-esteemrunning I already knew to eat clean and listen to my body, to only eat when I was in a calm mental state. Everyone knew. But when you're fat in the head, it's never about knowing the answers. It's about living them. Stephanie Klein healthknowinganswers I'd heard it all the time, 'Live in the moment.' But if I did that, I'd weigh more than a dump truck. Losing weight wasn't about the moment at all; it was about having faith in the future. It was about knowing there would be another meal in a few hours. Stephanie Klein healthknowinglive-in-the-moment People can say you're fat because you're filling a void, or you eat for all these emotional reasons. I said, 'I don't need to focus on this anymore. It doesn't matter why I'm fat. Let's fix it. Stephanie Klein emotionalfocuspeople It's about not rewarding your children with food, not always celebrating with food. I do think it's important to find other ways to comfort our children and ourselves, to work other ways of celebrating and rewarding. Stephanie Klein importantchildrenthinking I'm human. But overall, whenever I see anyone being made fun of or given a hard time, I rush to their defense. I want to help them because I know how it feels. Stephanie Klein hard-timesdefensefun I can trace every romance of my life back to a meal. My memories are enhanced by the tender morsels had at tables across from lovers, on blankets with friends who'd eventually become more, in banquets, barbecues, and breakfasts. Stephanie Klein romancemealsmemories The way I see it, love is an amusement park, and food its souvenir. Stephanie Klein amusementlove-isway I spent my whole single life trying to be thin just to find someone who'd love me once I got fat. Stephanie Klein single-lifefatstrying I hated the reflection in the mirror. I wanted so much to be someone else... I thought that if I was thinner, the rest of my life would change. Stephanie Klein hatedmirrorsreflection That's the thing about being a former fat camp champ: when asked if I'd change my past if I could, I always answer no. The pain of being an overweight kid, the humiliation, make you think twice before ever cutting anyone else down. Stephanie Klein painhealthkids I could stand to lose 10 or 15 pounds, but honestly, I'm happy the way I am. I feel comfortable with it. I'd rather have that extra 10, 15 pounds on me than live a lifestyle of trying to sustain this unattainable weight. Stephanie Klein unattainableweighttrying How many slams in an old screen door? Stephanie Klein real-friendscuttingfriendship My therapist told me I need to learn to love myself. It sounds easy enough, but really, how do you just wake up one day and learn that? It feels like something you should just do involuntarily, like swallowing or blinking, but now I have to work on it. It feels so forced. I mean, I know I went to a good school, and people tell me I'm smart and creative, but I don't KNOW that. I don't know how to make myself feel that. Stephanie Klein smartmeanschool
