Thinking based on who deserves what blocks compassionate communication. Marshall B. Rosenberg More Quotes by Marshall B. Rosenberg More Quotes From Marshall B. Rosenberg Clinical training in psychoanalysis has a deficit. It teaches how to sit and think about what a person is saying and how to interpret it intellectually, but not how to be fully present to this person. Marshall B. Rosenberg trainingcommunicationthinking Anger can be a wonderful wake up call to help you understand what you need and what you value. Marshall B. Rosenberg wake-upcommunicationneeds Empathy: Emptying our mind and listening with our whole being Marshall B. Rosenberg empathycommunicationlistening When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion. Marshall B. Rosenberg focuscompassionjudging Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies. Marshall B. Rosenberg judgmentcommunicationself Every moment each human being is doing the best we know at that moment to meet our needs. We never do anything that is not in the service of a need, there is no conflict on our planet at the level of needs. We all have the same needs. The problem is in strategies for meeting the needs. Marshall B. Rosenberg levelscommunicationneeds As NVC replaces our old patterns of defending, withdrawing or attacking in the face of judgment and criticism. We come to perceive ourselves and others, as well as our intentions and relationships, in a new light. Resistance, defensiveness, and violent reactions are minimized. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationlightcriticism Remember that whatever anyone does, it is an effort to meet a need. Marshall B. Rosenberg effortcommunicationdoe We want people to change because they see better ways of meeting their needs at less cost, not because of fear that we're going to punish them, or 'guilt' them if they don't. This applies to ourselves as well. Marshall B. Rosenberg guiltcompassionpeople Also, think about your intentionality - are you getting lost in the method? or coming from the intentionality, the purpose? You don't want to do the mechanics without the consciousness. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationpurposethinking Fear of corporal punishment obscures children's awareness of the compassion underlying the parent's demands. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationcompassionchildren We know the speaker has received adequate empathy when a. we sense a release of tension, or b. the flow of words comes to a halt. Marshall B. Rosenberg adequateempathycommunication We are designed for Giving Marshall B. Rosenberg protectionmotivationgiving NVC gives us tools and understanding to create a more peaceful state of mind. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationunderstandinggiving We want to take action out of the desire to contribute to life rather than out of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationguiltdesire Social change involves helping people see new options for making life wonderful that are less costly to get needs met. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationpeopleneeds The punitive use of force tends to generate hostility and to reinforce resistance to the very behavior we are seeking. Marshall B. Rosenberg resistancecommunicationuse Interpretations, criticisms, diagnoses, and judgments of others are actually alienated expressions of our unmet needs. Marshall B. Rosenberg communicationcriticismexpression Miracles can happen when we can keep our consciousness away from analyzing and classifying one another. Marshall B. Rosenberg analyzingcommunicationmiracle Empathizing with someone's 'no' protects us from taking it personally. Marshall B. Rosenberg empathyprotect
