This loss of self contributes to illness in its myriad forms. Sidney Jourard More Quotes by Sidney Jourard More Quotes From Sidney Jourard The act of writing bears something in common with the act of love. The writer, at his most productive moments, just flows. He gives of that which is uniquely himself. He makes himself naked, recording his nakedness in the written word. Herein lies some of the terror which frequently freezes a writer, preventing him from producing. Herein, too, lies some of the courage that must be entailed in letting others learn how one has experienced or is experiencing the world. Sidney Jourard writing love lying You cannot collaborate with another person toward some common end unless you know him. How can you know him, and he you, unless you have engaged in enough mutual disclosure of self to be able anticipate how he will react and what part he will play? Sidney Jourard teamwork self play Actualization of self cannot be sought as a goal in its own right. . . . Rather, it seems to be a by-product of active commitment of one's talents to some cause, outside the self, such as the quest for beauty, truth, or justice. Sidney Jourard self justice commitment Perhaps the most important reason for self-disclosure is that without it we cannot truly love. Sidney Jourard important self reason Learning is not a task or a problem-it is a way to be in the world. Man learns as he pursues goals and projects that have meaning for him. Sidney Jourard tasks goal men Paradoxically, we fail to disclose ourselves to other people because we want so much to be loved. Because we feel that way, we present ourselves as someone we think can be loved and accepted, and we conceal whatever would mar that image. Sidney Jourard truth people thinking Amazement and wonder signify that one's concepts of self and of the world and of other people are ready to be re-formed. Sidney Jourard self people world We encourage people to believe that there is only one identity, one role, one way for them to be, one value for them to fulfill, rather than a host of possible 'incarnations' to be lived in a lifetime. Sidney Jourard identity believe people A choice which confronts every one of us at every moment is this: Shall we permit our fellow men to know us as we now are, or shall we seek instead to remain an enigma, an uncertain quantity , wishing to be seen as something we are not? Sidney Jourard choices wish men The experience of surprise is a sign of one's readiness to grow. Sidney Jourard surprise growth grows We camouflage our true being before others to protect ourselves against criticism or rejection. This protection comes at a steep price... we are misunderstood. When we are misunderstood, especially by family and friends, we join the 'lonely crowd.' Worse... we tend to lose touch with our real selves. Sidney Jourard lonely real self We learn to deceive ourselves while we are trying to deceive others. Sidney Jourard deception deceiving trying
