To be able to hear our own feelings and needs and to empathize with them can free us from depression. Marshall B. Rosenberg More Quotes by Marshall B. Rosenberg More Quotes From Marshall B. Rosenberg All people ever say is: THANK YOU (a celebration of life) and PLEASE (an opportunity to make life more wonderful). Marshall B. Rosenberg communication opportunity people In NVC, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication feelings needs Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves. Marshall B. Rosenberg empathy levels communication If you are a jackal, you will try to reassure. Jackals try to fix people in pain. They can't stand pain, but make matters worse by trying to get rid of it. Put on giraffe ears. Try to hear what they are feeling and needing. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication pain people Self-empathy in NVC means checking in with your own feelings and needs. Marshall B. Rosenberg empathy self mean Not getting our needs fulfilled is painful - but it's a sweet pain, not suffering, which is what comes from life-alienated thinking and interpretation. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication pain sweet Never hear what a jackal-speaking person thinks, especially what they think about you. Marshall B. Rosenberg jackals communication thinking We need to receive empathy to give empathy. Marshall B. Rosenberg empathy giving needs If we don't tell people about our needs, it is much less likely they will be met. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication people needs I find that my cultural conditioning leads me to focus attention on places where I am unlikely to get what I want. I developed NVC as a way to train my attention-to shine the light of consciousness-on places that have the potential to yield what I am seeking. Marshall B. Rosenberg yield communication light We do not look for compromise; rather, we seek to resolve the conflict to everyone's complete satisfaction. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication satisfaction looks The key to fostering connection in the face of a 'no' is always hearing 'yes' to something else. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication keys faces Plans to exact retribution are never going to make us safer. Marshall B. Rosenberg retribution nonviolent-communication communication When we fear punishment, we focus on consequences, not on our own values. Marshall B. Rosenberg punishment communication focus Have you ever been surfing? Imagine you're on your surfboard now, waiting for the big one to come. Get ready to get carried with that energy. Now, here it comes. That's empathy. No words - just being with that energy. When I connect with what's alive in another person, I have feelings similar to when I'm surfing. Marshall B. Rosenberg empathy waiting feelings Behind intimidating messages are simply people appealing to us to meet their needs. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication people needs However impressed we may be with NVC concepts, it is only through practice and application that our lives are transformed. Marshall B. Rosenberg communication practice may When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs. Marshall B. Rosenberg block communication thinking If we ask two questions, we will see that punishment never works. First: What do we want the other person to do? Second: What do we want the other person's reasons to be for doing as we request? Marshall B. Rosenberg punishment communication two Power-Over leads to punishment and violence. Power-With leads to compassion and understanding, and to learning motivated by reverence for life rather than fear, guilt, shame, or anger. Marshall B. Rosenberg punishment communication compassion
